- 7 years ago
I always read about couples who just get married and say “we are getting used to life together/combining finances/thinking about the future/etc” and lots of ladies are struggling with sharing their lives with their new husband.
I cannot identify with this at all. I understand how it can happen, and everyone deals with things differently, and I am in no way judging or shaking my head at the ladies who go through this. I’m just wondering if there are any other ladies in the hive who this does not apply to.
My husband and I have been “on the same wave” about things for a very, very long time. I have been married for 6 months now and can honestly say nothing changed. If it weren’t for the extra ring and my new signature, I would forget we even got married. We were in a committed relationship years before we got married (even engaged) and we always talked to one another about everything significant (jobs to quit, jobs to accept, large credit card purchases, vehicle choices, etc) even when we were living apart. We just had a solid friendship base and a mutual sharing of information, maybe because we had the same common goal in mind: marriage, and we were building up the foundation early. I’m not sure. All I know is I just cannot relate to girls who are freaking out after they get married when they realize they “have to” share things now.
Is there anyone else in the hive who feels like I do?