After Reception: What did you do?

posted 3 years ago in Reception
  • poll: Did you have an afterglow? (please comment to elaborate!)
    Yes, and it was a blast! : (5 votes)
    13 %
    Yes, but I would not do it again. : (0 votes)
    No, but we had a bar crawl or other post-reception activity. : (7 votes)
    18 %
    No. : (27 votes)
    69 %
  • Post # 4
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Woah. Early bump. I can’t believe how quickly things are posted here (I’m a new bee!) 


    Anyway, back to you! 🙂 


    – I think cash bars are not ideal … at weddings. I think of this as as an after-party. As long as you let the guests going know they need to bring some cash (or if there’s card facilities). 


    – I’d possibly include it in their invites. That way it’s an “official” thing. If I was told by word-of-mouth I’d think it would be a casual affair and possibly mention it to others. If that’s not what you’re after I’d make a note of it. 


    – Wording … hmm, not sure. Something like “We would love to have your company at [venue] after all the formalities have finished at [reception venue] from midnight to 2am. Please note that drinks will be at your expense but the bowling is on us!” 


    Edit: Oh! And I won’t be having an after-party. I love a good night out but after doing the entire day of makeup/hair/photos/all the other stuff, I’ll be stuffed. 


    Post # 5
    373 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @laureneliz87:  I went bar hopping in my wedding gown with the groom, our bridal party and some close friends. It was a blast!

    Post # 6
    6963 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think a cash bar after the wedding is over is fine. I’d be more concerned about your guests that aren’t invited to the after party being a bit offended. Isn’t it going to be a bit awkward to be saying goodbye to some of your guests and the rest just hanging around waiting to continue the party…?

    Post # 7
    203 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012 - Walnut Beach Resort

    An afterglow sounds fun. Do you have a website? Maybe you could put it on there. 

    We jumped into the lake at midnight! (I did change out of my dress into a white sundress first) No one else changed though. It was really hot in the resort ballroom, so we were very happy to cool off!

    Post # 8
    112 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    This sounds like so much fun! I think it’s a great idea, especially the bowling, which is very unique. I would not include an invite in the invitation…it could be weird when younger cousins get it and their parents (aunts and uncles) don’t. You can run into issues when some are invited and some aren’t and you never know who might be offended. 

    I would send a separate email invite – maybe through paperles post or something. That way it doesn’t seem like this official activity that some are invited to and some are not.

    I think it’s fine to do cash bar. If you have open bar at wedding ppl will probably have their fill and may only want another cocktail or two. You also don’t want o be responsible for people getting WAY too drunk…this kind of slows them down a little bit. I’m sure the food at the reception will be plenty, agree you don’t need anymore.

    I’ve been to a few after parties adn they are always a good time and an opportunity to spend more quality time with the bride and groom.

    Post # 9
    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    -I hear a lot about how having a cash bar at a wedding is tacky…and to a point, I tend to agree. Is it then also tacky to have one at an afterglow, after you have offered five whole hours of free booze? I have been to a few weddings where I was invited to attend a bar crawl afterward with a smaller group of guests and, naturally, I have always assumed I would be buying my own drinks after the conclusion of the reception (and I did).

    I don’t think anyone would expect the booze to be paid for here

    -Only a portion of our guests will be invited to the afterglow, and mainly, they will be our friends and friends’ spouses. I don’t see this being a problem, as older family members will have no interest in partying until 2AM. What is the best way to invite said people to the afterglow? I am considering doing an instert in their invitation, but would word-of-mouth be a better idea? Or an e-mail invite?

    Invite them separately through email

    -Did you have an afterglow or similar type party? Was it fun? Would you do it again? no, but I went to others’, and they were super fun!

    Post # 10
    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Customs House Resturant Geelong

    commenting to follow 🙂

    Post # 11
    1157 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @laureneliz87:  I’m planning to have the bridal party spread it by word of mouth and we’re also having them plan it for us.  Of course it’s on them to pay if they want to go, everyone assumes that at an afterparty.

    Post # 13
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @laureneliz87:  i was so tired by the end of the night…i went home after the wedding was over!

    Post # 15
    11668 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    We went to the hotel bar for about an hour (til it closed) and many if our guests joined. Finally got to enjoy a glass of champagne theN! Lol

    Post # 16
    6525 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @laureneliz87:  my wedding (ceremony/church and catering hall) were all within a mile of our house. And my ceremony was at 3pm (ended at 4) cocktail hour from 6-7 and reception from 7-11. So i was up at 730am (but i was tossing and turning all night) and i was at the hair salon by 8am and done by 1230. Went home and had some wine with my BMs…so yea i was dead tired by the end of the night haha

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