Post # 1
We are trying to keep our rehearsal dinner somewhat small by limiting it to wedding party and family to keep costs to a minimum (we’re paying). However, we still want to have some time with our other OOT guests that night. We are likely having our rehearsal dinner at an Irish pub across the street from where we live, then planned on inviting the rest of the OOTers for a post-dinner get-together, also at the pub. (The dinner will be in a private room and the "gathering" would be in the main part of the pub.)
I’m wondering about the best way to get the word out about this get-together, while also making it clear that it is *not* a rehearsal dinner so people won’t get ticked if they show up and realize there isn’t a meal. I thought about doing an Evite, and also considered including a note about it in the OOT invitations (for folks who aren’t invited to the actual rehearsal dinner). I also thought about posting it on our (still non-existant) wedding Web site but I wasn’t sure if everyone would see it there.
Would it get the message across if I called it a "Post-rehearsal dinner get-together"?
Has anyone else done something like this?
Post # 3
That’s an interesting idea. We are going to be in the middle of nowhere, so we kind of have to invite everyone. I think you could totally pull this off though.
I think an Evite is a great idea, plus word of mouth. Let people know that you’d like to see them before you get all gussied up the next day.
Post # 4
we’re doing this for the very same reasons. I put on the website that ‘due to space constraints, only the actual bridal party is invited ot the rehearsal dinner’ yada yada yada…then I created a new event called "The After Party". Besides the website, we’ve spread everything to our friends very word of mouth…when OOT guests ask about the rehearsal dinner, we explain that its going to be very small and then tell them about the after-party…
My wedding is in 2 weeks, so I will tell you how it goes…
Post # 5
We are doing something similar, and I’m going to put a note about it in the OOT bags, and email friends before hand as well.
Post # 6
What about calling it something like "Pre-wedding gathering"…that way there’s no confusion with people who are not invited to the rehearsal dinner?
I like the Evite idea too, are your OOT guests staying at the same hotel? If so, maybe you could have something printed up that they would receive at check-in…"Please join us at Irish pub at 9pm tonight for some cocktails…."
Post # 7
We are doing the same thing, I hadn’t even thought about how to tell people yet. I should probably start doing that. I like the evite idea, we use evite for most parties we have generally as do our friends, so I think that makes sense. The one thing that I am confused about on the wording is how to make it clear that we won’t be paying for that portion of the evening. We are on a pretty tight budget, so we are having a smaller rehersal dinner, than the after party at a reserved space at a bar near where the OOT guests are staying. But we can’t afford to pay for it to be open bar.
Post # 8
We’re doing the same thing! My brother went to one of these recently and said it was a hit. He got an actual invitation in the mail for it. We’re planning on likely doing real invitations too, once we find out who is coming in the night before the wedding. They will probably say something like "Please join us for a welcome reception following the rehearsal dinner. Dessert and drinks will be served." We had considered putting it in the OOT bags too but then we realized guests might really want to plan for this (outfits, etc) ahead of time.
Our biggest problem is how to give a count to the RD place (we’re having the post-RD party right at the RD site). We don’t know how many to figure on, but will probably go with the # of people that will be in town that night, which we can find out from hotel bookings.
Good luck! I’m gonna watch this thread for other ideas 🙂
Post # 9
How about calling it Welcome Cocktails or something…that’s what it is and it makes the point that there is no food. Also, add some recommendations for restaurants in the area on your website for them to eat at.
Post # 10
That was exactly the same thing we were faced with. We had a small rehearsal dinner and then invited all OOT guests to a "Welcome Party" in the same location. We VistaPrint-ed invites for the rehearsal dinner, and then home ink jet printed a similar invite for the Welcome Party and put that and directions in the OOT bag. We also let everyone know by word of mouth about the welcome party ahead of time so they knew it was coming. It worked out great!! I blogged about it:
We had a great time and it was a good way to balance budget, ettiquete and guest fun!