Post something positive if you get a BFN this cycle

posted 4 weeks ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

All of those are great positives!  I am only in my first month of TTC, but I really like this idea because my hopes are really high and I know chances are relatively low.

  • House projects as well.  All we really NEED done before a baby arrives is our kitchen to be done, which we are buying cabinets this weekend!!
  • More sleep!!! Oh, how I love sleep!
  • More money.
  • More excitement
  • More time to think about how we will tell people
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I keep reminding myself of these positives each month!

– The longer it takes, the more of my studies will be outta the way before a baby (due to finish studies Aug 2018)

– We’ll be well above our savings goals

– I’ll be on even less of my medication as the months go by (I WAS on 120mg, down to 7mg!)

– longer to prep my body for pregnancy and birth

– More time to spend with DH just the 2 of us!!

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I actually just miscarried yesterday so I’m having a much more difficult time than I have in the past BUT the timing wouldn’t have been perfect. I’d prefer a fall, winter, or May baby just bc of the timing & how it’d work with my job as a school counselor. – the end of the school year is a hard time to miss. That’s as much positive as I can do right now. 

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

nightowl :  lol I’m very impatient too! This will be our 4th cycle TTC. I try to stay realistic given our circumstances – I have one fallopian tube, so it could take a while! It took me a couple months to accept the fact… And i did have feelings of “I’m a woman with a defect now ” at the start when I lost my tube. I’m at peace now and know it will happen eventually! When the time is right! 🙂

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I just had a chemical after our first cycle trying, and my current positive is that I can eat the cookie dough that my husband is currently making! I also have a school year schedule and am changing grade levels, so a February baby wouldn’t really have been IDEAL…hoping for perhaps an April or May baby now instead! 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I think I needed this thread today. I don’t post on the TTC boards often, but I still feel supported when I read I’m not alone. We lost our baby last year at 6 weeks (ruptured ectopic) and haven’t had any luck getting pregnant since. Took 2 years to conceive our lost little one and I’ve been having a hard time maintaining hope.  

My positives

We have more freedom to up and leave on our spontaneous weekend trips.

We continue to save more than expected each month.

I also appreciate the time to work on my projects around the house. Painted 2 bedrooms over the last 2 weeks. 🙂 

I can still have a drink if the mood strikes. 

More time to make memories as just the 2 of us. 

Thank you for directing my thoughts toward the positives. 

 

 

 

 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

Ahh I love this thread – great idea!

My positives in the event of a negative:

  • I have a lot of work travel coming up and won’t have to awkwardly not-drink (we do a lot of dinner/ drinks as a group)
  • Like other ladies have said – another month to be healthy and exercising pre-baby!
  • More time to work with my young horse I’m training… long summer days are the best for this!
Post # 11
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Bumble bee

– July is a heavy month for birthdays in my immediate family so funds are low and my stress is high, a BFP might be a bit more than I can emotionally handle this month. As well as both of my grandparent’s bday’s are in March.

– I’d REALLY prefer a late fall/early winter baby. My SO’s job has him laid off during that season and it’d be great to not have to worry about daycare for the first 4-5 months. 

– We’ve had some new expenses this year that have hit our budget, so it’d be nice to pay those down and be in a better situation financially

– Summer is just starting which means barbecues, boating, and floating, aka social drinking.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012
  • We are going to float the river with friends in a few weeks and I’ll be able to drink instead of trying to hide the fact that I’m not drinking. 
  • More time to build muscle! I’ve been working hard on a heavy weight lifting program since April and am finally starting to see the changes occur.
  • More data points in fertility friend to help understand my cycles
  • More coffee 🙂
Post # 13
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Bumble bee

To all the ladies who have suffered a loss, sending BIG HUGS!!!

afenimore11 :  PREACH about that sleep! Sleep is my life. Lord help SO and I….

AORiver15 :   Hell yes to the cookie dough!!! My best friend and I used to make it growing up without the raw egg, so we were able to eat it no worries! We had no intention of baking, so it didn’t matter. I think you can substitute vegetable oil if you need it to help smooth the texture.

QueenieB :  OOhh! I love horses! I had them growing up but unfortunately haven’t ridden since I was about 14, and now my horse has been sent to a foundation that offers rehab for people with disabilities. (Perfect place for her, she is soo gentile!) Would love to see pictures of the little babe if you’re willing to share.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

MargaritaVille :  Here’s my kid 😉 he’s standing so funny in this pic lol. Sounds like you had an amazing mare!! It takes a special horse to do that job!

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

QueenieB :  OMG! He’s BEAUTIFUL! My grandmother has the most amazing Palomino growing up and I practically lived on him. A fellow horse friend’s son and I used to sit on his back and play cards when we were little. He was the best horse ever. 

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