Post # 1
I feel like I’m having the opposite of the post wedding blues in a way. At least I always hear that that’s where you’re sad after the wedding because it was such a great day and now its over. Instead I feel like my wedding could’ve been so much better :/. Don’t get me wrong, I’m super happy about my marriage and my awesome new hubby 🙂 its just thinking about the wedding that bugs me. I feel like I didn’t look great, should’ve lost more weight, flowers weren’t right, DJ was awful, sad about all the projects I wanted to do that I didn’t have time for, etc. Just in hindsight it isn’t the perfect picture of me day, though it wasn’t bad by any means. Even when I look at wedding pictures, I feel like I should be happy, but instead that feeling of what I could’ve done gets to me. Does anyone else feel this way, or did you in the past? Any tips on getting past it?
Post # 3
I think this is quite a normal feeling once the day is over and you can look back and pick over everything. I felt like this about my day. I was really ill in the week leading up with a chest infection so I was dosed up on medication for the whole week and it meant I got tired quite quickly. By the time I got to my evening reception I was beyond tired and found it difficult to stand for any length of time and this made talking to all my guests really hard. I don’t feel I enjoyed my evening reception as well as I could have although the ceremony itself was fantastic.
I don’t really have any advice for getting past it…..I suppose you have no option but to get past it. I knew I was always going to be one of those brides that wasn’t super polished with perfect hair and nails but I made my peace with that and overall I was happy with how EVERYTHING went. The evening reception left me with a more unsettled feeling but I realised there’s nothing I could do about it so just accepted it.
Perhaps you’re being too hard on yourself – as women we are GREAT at that!!
Post # 4
I feel this way a bit, too. My day was fantastic, and when it was happening I was extatic. But now that it’s over, I nitpick about all of the little things I could have done differently. I wonder why I didn’t double-check to make sure our first dance was getting recorded (groomsman forgot), how I forgot to carry an heirloom handkerchief down the aisle, how we neglected to do a formal thanks to our guests. It’s so easy to be critical in hindsight–at the time, I wasn’t worried about anything…I just went with the flow and was totally in the moment.
I don’t have any great advice for how to get over that feeling–mine has faded some with time. I think it’s the plight of the perfectionists! I just try to focus on all of the things that went well and how happy I am to be married to my fantastic husband. I also know that the more I focus on the bad, the more I forget about the good. Look at your pictures with a less critical eye and see the beauty of the day and the happiness on your face–this helps me.
Post # 5
Hey there, this happened to me too, I think it’s quite a normal reaction. If it’s any comfort, the feeling passed for me after a month or so. Don’t be hard on yourself, I’m sure you put lots into your wedding and that lots went right/perfect too 🙂 Concentrate on your marriage – make every day special with your new hubby x
Post # 6
I understand how you’re feeling. My wedding was amazing, but I can’t help but look back and wish some things could have turned out differently. I think what helps the most is if you try to accept your wedding day for what it was. Once you accept it, you can really start to feel good about it instead of nitpicking little things.
Post # 7
I think the hardest part is not having anything to do now. I had such an amazing time planning and doing some DIY for my wedding that sometimes I feel like I dont know what to do with myself. Since we came back from our Honeymoon, DH is working basically 12 hours a day between his fulltime job and his internship as a therapist to get his license in Behavior Analysis.
I have to admit I felt lonely at first and a little bit of blues but then I just started to work on things around the house and doing little projects so that when he gets home, we can just relax together and enjoy married life.
My advise is to do things that fill up your time. It will get better.