(Closed) post wedding blues

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Katreenie:

I know how you feel. I’ve been married for almost 3 months and still think about things I wish I could have/ would have done differently. I keep asking others for reassurance and I know I’m just annoying everyone around me. I recently got my photos back and am now obsessed that my dress shows too much cleavage even when others tell me it’s fine. I also cannot remember parts of the day which upsets me. Parts of the day are a blurr to me and I keep blamming myself. People tell me thats how it goes but I still have trouble letting things go in my mind.

Post # 4
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693 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

It’s funny, I was really worried that I’d have a case of the blues after it was over, but I don’t feel it at all.  It’s been what, 7 weeks, and I have thoroughly immersed myself in getting the house set up (DH moved into my condo with me after the wedding) and playing catch-up at work. 

I also went back to working on an eleborate scrapbook of my trip to Japan last year, which I got very far in, then abandonded it around last December to focus on the wedding planning.  By time I’m done that, if I start feeling post-wedding depressed, I’ll just start up the Wedding scrapbook!

So yeah, I say any ladies with this problem just need a good solid, FUN distraction!

Post # 5
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4 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Katreenie:  How you feel is how I feel now!  It has been two months and I am still doing this.  When you wrote this, your wedding was fairly fresh.  Now that it has been a year, are you at peace?  What did you do, if anything, to overcome your down mood?

Post # 6
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23 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Ugh I feel like this as well! I’m 6 weeks past my wedding and OBSESSING over what the pictures look like because I didn’t loose that extra 10-15lbs.  OBSESSING that we didn’t take enough photos or any fun creative ones like I see all over the internet. Damn you social media! 🙂 As well as picking away at the small things, not enough flowers, no good angle for the photographer to get us during the ceremony, even my dress choice!! UGH. I had the most amazing, fun, special day but this dark cloud has creeped in and I’m beginning to think it will not go away.  What bugs me even more is that this is even a problem to me! With all of the other serious pressing issues in the world, why am I so caught up on this.

Post # 6
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33 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I can really relate, especially to what @KAH is describing. 

I have so many regrets that I just cant shake.

I wish I was more photogenic, was thinner, did my hair makeup differently, had clearer skin…..

I wish I had better planned and directed the photo shoots.  When I look at my photos, I compare myself not only to other weddings I’ve been to and aquantiences photos on Facebook but also friggin Pinterest. I deleted all of my wedding related boards the second I came back from honeymoon…they just made me sad. I can hardly bring myself to look at the photis let alone print any. What a waste.

I wish I could just be happy, because the thing is it was a great day! The weather was breathtaking, the food and music was fantastic, and everyone had a blast. I love my husband and couldnt be happier with married life, but I just cant shake these stupid regrets. I wish I could just get over it: it makes me even angrier with myself that this is such a pathetic issue. I should just feel happy that I had a great day with no major disasters and an amazing spouse.  But all I can do is compare myself to others and be down on myself.

I don’t know how to get out of this funk:(

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