- 8 years ago
- Wedding: September 2009
It’s been over one week since my wedding (9/6). Nothing major went wrong. The decorations were beautiful. Over 100 of friends and family came to our destination wedding. The food was delicious, we heard only rave reviews. Our cocktail hour was a huge hit, and we had an amazing outdoor ceremony. The rain even let up for the 30 minutes of our ceremony. Yet I feel disappointed and even let down with the outcome. Some things didn’t go the way I wanted or had expected, and now I have this overhanging grief. I think to myself, “I should have done this…” or “Why didn’t I think of this.” I even felt disorganized and wish I could do it again so I could these details right.
Now, I know not everything can be perfect and I’m trying to focus on the things that did go right, but some of my disappointments are for things that are really important, like our photographs. My complaints really stem from feeling rushed with the photographer. Once our ceremony ended, we rushed back outside with our families and the wedding party to get photos before the rain started. I don’t know if we got all the shots we wanted and this is weighing on me. I also am disappointed I didn’t force the photographer to do more shots with the family, even inside. I had a wedding planner and I left it in her hands, and almost feel like she should have been the one making sure I was okay with all the photos being taken. I even wish my husband, who is the one who is more thoughtful with the artistic stuff, would have some more oversight with the photographer. Then we had this fabulous backdrop to do photos during the cocktail hour. My husband and I came in before we were announced at the reception to take some photos there. But then after dinner, we had the backdrop opened up so our guests can get more shots. However, I wish someone would have grabbed me to take photos on the backdrop with them, since those are the ones that are fun and candid. I was doing table visits or something like that, and I am so regretting that I didn’t rush up there to do some shots. But even more so, why didn’t my planner encourage me to go up there and take shots. Also, I don’t feel like I got many shots with other family and friends. People always say that the bride and groom will be taken a ton of photos, but I really feel like no one bothered to take photos of us with them. I’m let down, very let down because we can’t do it again.
Then, as I’m looking at some of our friends photos, I’m noticing that my hair was messed up in some photos. I am hating the fact that no one told me! So in half the reception pictures, my hair looks crappy.
Then we asked the wedding planner to turn off certain lights during the reception so as not to interfere with our purple lights. I didn’t realize it till now but those lights were never turned off, and I don’t like the way it looks in pictures.
We also took too long to eat our dinner. I wanted to rush through our dinner to start table visits, but we took our time and then got rushed doing the visits. I wish, again, our planner would have said something to us, like “you guys better start your table visits.” This never happened.
Does anyone else have the post-wedding blues? All I can think about are these stupid little things and how I could have changed them. I am disappointed in myself that I wasn’t more thoughtful about these things that were important to us – the photographs being number one. It was a great night, but I can’t get my disappointments out of my mind. When I talk to my husband and family, they just remind me that no one else noticed and everything else was just perfect. Boo Hoo! When I think of my wedding, I want to be happy. But now all I can think about is doing the day over. Ugh who else feels like this? How can I get over this?