Post # 1
So I have been subscribed to the Knot (and by proxy, the Nest) since we got engaged last year, and I still get their emails periodically. I received one this morning that highlighted a special article on the “Post-Wedding Blues.” Since both my husband and I have been feeling the let down since returning from our honeymoon, I decided to check out the article, hoping for some words of advice and encouragement. Instead, it was made out to be a joke.
Check out the article here
There were a lot of very angry and upset comments from subscribers to the Knot/Nest about the article, and I was inclined to agree with many of them. I feel that post-wedding blues are an issue that lots of brides (and grooms) deal with, but rarely speak about because they are supposed to be “happy newlyweds.” What do the Bees think? Is anyone else experiencing post-wedding blues?
Post # 3
Oops, meant to put this in Emotional!
Post # 4
I got the PWB! And I honestly didn’t think I would because by the time our wedding came around, I was thrilled to be done with all the planning. I was emotionally drained, and just didn’t care anymore.
Our wedding day was fabulous, and we loved it so much. When we got home, we were so, so happy to be back to normal. About a month went by, and I started to get the PWB. I started to second-guess all the decisions I made, largely because my bouquet was ALL wrong, and I questioned by short wedding dress. I started to then question my hair because my gut told me to wear it down, and I did an updo anyway, etc. All the little stupid things that don’t really matter started to bother me, and then I started to think our wedding sucked balls, and there was nothing I could do about it.
About a month of being depressed about it, I just got over it. It’s just something you have to ride out, and I think most brides will go through it. But it does go away, unless something major happens on your wedding day, like your photographer doesn’t show up or something. Now, I just consider myself lucky that we had a blast on our wedding day, hung the last of our photos on our wall, and we’ve moved on.
We also decided to renew our vows together every year on our anniversary. Just the two of us. That kind of helps, too. We both firmly believe that there shouldn’t just be one day when you recite how much you love each other.
By the way, that article was totally stupid. I mean, it wasn’t even funny. Just insulting.
Post # 5
That article was in very poor taste. They could have at least given it a different title.
I guess you could say I had PWB, mainly because I spent forever planning for one day and it went by so fast. I feel like it was all a blur. I got it over it pretty quickly though. I agree that you just have to ride it out.
Post # 6
Haven’t read the article yet, but I def had a version of pwb. During our honeymoon, I had a crying spell because it was OVER (made even more odd since I’d not really been looking forward to wedding – ever – to begin with!). The same way my dad teared up giving his toast at the wedding, I cried over a huge event in our lives that is now forever in the past. Like someone else said, it amazes me how quickly the day slipped by and when I think back, so much of it is a blur. I started thinking about all the major milestones in our lives, everything my husband & I have to look forward to, and how quickly it will all play out. I worried that those too would happen in a blink and I’d be unable to hold on to specific memories. This quickly spiralled into invisioning us old with our entire lives over and behind us. Yes, I got a bit over-emotional and sad.
But! It passed. I enjoyed our wedding, our honeymoon and the last 3 wks of married life, and I’m excited to begin our life together!!
Post # 7
I received that article in my e-mail as well and I clicked on it thinking it would be something insightful which it most definitely wasn’t. I’m pretty sure I’m still experiencing PWB and I’m trying to move past it. We are still dealing with some vendor issues from the wedding which I think is making it difficult to move forward. I feel like I’m still in wedding negotiating mode with them.
Post # 8
So much is built up in a wedding, and that is another reason I am a proponent of renewing vows every year. A marriage is an ongoing thing. I never want to forget that, and I want to re-experience the emotion I felt at the altar, every single year. I am someone who always needs new and exciting experiences and projects, so I keep myself busy with new goals. Also, DH and I already condsidered ourselves married when we did it. We agreed that nothing would change (except his name). I can see why the blues may happen to some, because there is so much pressure on a wedding and a marriage, especially these days (it seems). I don’t think a wedding should just be considered a one-time experience. I don’t like all the pressure. Because I commited to this relationship, I will re-vow my vows every year I’m alive.
Post # 9
I’m not exactly sad that my wedding is over–it was a fantastic day and I have so many good memories! But I would say that I am so bored now! I spent so many months enjoying wedding planning (even though my wedding wasn’t even elaborate, but I love wedding stuff) and now I’m just sitting around looking for a new project! I guess wedding planning had become my hobby and now I need something else to focus on!