Post # 1
I know there have been posts about this before and I was so glad to see that I was not alone. Everyone kept saying that I would feel so “relieved” when all the craziness of planning was over. Um, not so much.
I wanted to share a great article that was sent to me about battling the post-wedding blues. We got married only 2 weeks ago yesterday, and it was the most fantastic day. I am still staring at pics online and dying to catch up with friends to hear about how much fun they had. But, like other new brides, I am feeling a bit sad. This article pretty much sums it up. Wondering how others are handling it all.
Post # 3
How about getting “into” married life? You have more bridey things left to do like thank you notes, getting photos in albums, and all the fun from using your fab new wedding presents. How about planning a housewarming cocktail party or bbq where you invite alot of your friends who went to the wedding over, use the great gifts you got, and cook them a great meal?
I think doing things like this puts the blues aside.
Your wedding IS a wonderful day, and will be remembered always, but there will be also other days that will feel just as great. So much more to look forward too!
Post # 4
I’m not married yet, but I already know I am going to get the post wedding blues!
I just know that I am going to be one of those girls who has to put her dress on and stand infront of the mirror long after the wedding takes place!
Post # 5
@bellenga – that is such a fun idea! We have been wanting to do that for a few weeks now but havent found the time (or the money) and keep pushing it back! We have had nights where we try to use as much of our wedding stuff as we can though! We did a fondue night one night and that was a lot of fun! I am still sorting through pictures trying to start on our album – or at least get things organized. I havent even ordered any prints of our wedding photos yet!!!
I think as time goes on the post wedding blues start to fade. It has been 7 weeks since our wedding and yes, I still will wish I could have a picture of a certain thing from time to time or wish I could have the whole day back just because it was so much fun, but I am not thinking those things as often. Now Im starting to look back on it with such fondness. (Not that I didnt before – its just there was sadness attached to it) and it is awesome! I love married life and our wonderful wedding was just the beginning to an even better life as husband and wife. Life is happening and that is awesome!
I havent read that article yet – but there was another one posted recently from rocknroll bride that was really good too!
Post # 6
@PitBulLover: thank you so much for the kind words of encouragement. I will get there, I know I will. I love this: “life is happening and that is awesome.” It IS and I have to remind myself how lucky I am.
Post # 7
@joannet123: LOL such a corny line but its true! You will continue to have things happening that you are so happy with and that are so much fun. After our wedding we have gone camping, we celebrated our wedding with a friend couple that did not come to our wedding, we have celebrated friends birthdays, we celebrated the engagement of another couple of our close friends, we have tried new restaurants, we have tried to cook more at home, we have started to create more traditions and look forward to the future together!
Post # 8
I think all the little projects help us lose site of the big picture- combining self and families. There are little losses, joys and compromises that come with marriage that we need to take time and process. It can be so hard to sit still and enjoy!
Post # 9
I was one of those people who was SO excited to be done planning. I was a little bummed that the day went by so fast, but I was excited to be able to sit down and watch TV without a single thought going to planning the wedding. Although we ended up pregnant pretty much right away, so the lull in planning only lasted 2 months.
Post # 10
Thanks for posting this. I was so excited to be done with planning but now I feel more depressed than I was when I didn’t even have one moment to think. I married an amazing man have a beautiful house in the suburbs and we have great jobs. So I can’t seem to understand why I have been so sad lately and neither can my DH. I guess I don’t know where I fit in and I am taking on all of these new tasks of being a homeowner. And DH is continuing his life as normal. We never saw each other all that much and it’s still the same but now I don’t have all of these other things to fill up my time so I have started to feel needy and that so isn’t me. I am trying to spend more time with friends and also enjoying some down time that I haven’t had for the past two years.