(Closed) Post-Wedding blues Blues BLUES!

posted 7 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

I totally missed my wedding too!!!  I had 3 wedddings after mine, one was my SIL’s 3 months later so I got more bummed around her wedding time even though we just had an amazing weddnig.  People WILL care once you get your album and pictures!  Just remember what a great time your wedding was and focus on making new great memories with your husband and familyl!

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I obviously can’t talk about my experience with this.  But, I can see why you’d feel this way!  I bet I’ll have the same reaction, because I’m loooooooving all the fuss.  People have been so great (please don’t let me have jinxed us!).  And, the women in my circle that have gotten married told me about a sorta postpartum that they went through shortly after their wedding and I told them they were silly, but I don’t think they are now! 

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with building memories and doing fun things with your hubby, just enjoy it!  Things will eventually fall into place (at least they did for my friends who have had VERY similar experiences).

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It makes total sense!  Its a strange transition for you and its probably really strange for your/his family too.  I think also you and he have to find your stride together.  Which might be contributing to why you feel alienated, maybe your families are giving you space?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

 Well Im actually at the other end of the spectrum. Yesterday I wrote how I cant believe how I DONT have the wedding blues. But I’m more surprised at myself rather then at you because I can totally see why your feeling the way you are. I think I just had wayyy to much stress with planning my wedding.

  Its alright to feel the way you do. We all get a little jealous. I have a very close cousin of mine whos birthday is the day after mine and every single year I get so jealous the day after my birthday because she still has the whole day for herself. And it seems like everyone totally focuses their attention on her and my birthday was just a long, gone thought of the past. Lol totally immature a I know! And the worst part is….I have to go through that every single year of my life! lol!!! Just be glad you dont have to do that! hehe. It will pass hun! Just make fun memories with your hubby now. =)

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

It is sad to adjust to not having this huge event to look forward to and talk about. I try to focus on our future plans as a couple and getting our home in order. We’re also looking forward to trips home to visit family (we live a plane ride away too) and other social events.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

Oh I am still blissful about our wedding although it is but a distant memory for everyone else. However I DO NOT miss the stress! I was literally pulling my hair out and grinding my teeth like crazy at night and now that is GONE, and I am glad!

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2007

I totally get it. It’s sad really, that we spend so much time and effort planning this one perfect day where it’s all about us and then POOF!  It’s all over just like that. I was sad thinking about it on our honeymoon, thinking about all the things I wanted to do but never did and people I never got talking to but just never had the time. I really kicked myself for a couple of weeks but now I just tell myself no regrets – we had a perfect day and everyone who mattered was there to celebrate with us and even though it didn’t last long our memories will.

My advice for you is to enjoy the newlywed stage now that you are married. You are still number one and the center of attention to someone – your husband! You had your moment in the spotlight and unfortunately life moves far too quickly and now it’s someone else’s turn so try to be happy for them, offer advice and be happy in your new life as a married couple.  x

 

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