Post # 1
So my fiance are having this debate today about whether or not to do the traditional post wedding brunch. He is leaning more towards doing it and I am 50/50. With the cons kind of making me apprehensive. Here is what I think: After an entire day of smiling for pictures, greeting 150 people and making them feel welcome, thanking everyone for coming, feeling like I have to look and act perfect all day long, and being the center of attention, I don’t know if I can handle yet another get together in our honor the very next day. I understand that it is sweet and it’s a nice way to kind of feel final about it all, but I don’t know. Fiance says he thinks it will be a nice way to regroup with those close to us without the pressure of the wedding.
Is anyone doing a brunch the morning after? Or has done one in the past and would like to share the pros and cons of how it went/how you felt about it all?
Post # 3
I think it depends on where it is and who is hosting it. A recent wedding I was involved with – the brides mom hosted it in her backyard. Totally casual and just a time for everyone to kick back. That said – it was NOT enjoyable for the mom and those that helped with the brunch – who were already exhausted from the wedding events.
I think if you can get someone to do it for you that isn’t so involved with the wedding and can have it in a space that you find relaxing, it’s a very nice way to have everyone together (especially because the actual wedding will fly by).
Post # 4
I’ve been to some really nice, laid back and casual day after brunches that were hosted at a family member’s or friends home which we really nice and a lot of fun. That said, we’re getting married in a place where we have no family or friends with homes large enough to host something like this, and I have no interest in trying to coordinate yet another event where we need a venue, etc. So I think we’re skipping it.
To be honest, as a wedding guest, I sometimes appreciate waking up on Sunday morning and NOT having to be anywhere.
Post # 5
we’re debating it too. he wants to, but i feel like after the wedding i really won’t want to have to wake up, get dressed, and meet people. i’ll want to sleep in and lay in bed with my hubby!
Post # 6
I think we’re going the backyard route (well, it’ll be at the estate where we have the wedding b/c we don’t need to leave till Sunday afternoon). My plan is to just buy a bunch of bagels and cream cheese, some fruit and paper plates. Easy.
Post # 7
We’re definitely going to have one. Almost all of our guests will have traveled from out of town… and since we moved across the country we haven’t gotten to see our friends and family as often as we used to. I’m really excited to have an additional event where we’ll get to see our guests, before everyone goes their separate ways at the end of the weekend.
At past weddings, I have really enjoyed the morning after brunch. Usually attendance is much lower than at the wedding itself, so the brunch is a great time to see more of the bride and grooom than you do at the wedding itself, when the married couple is constantly surrounded by all of their many friends and family members.
Post # 8
You and I think alike @artbee! I think I am worried about feeling a lot of pressure and whatnot. Even at the engagement party I was so nervous because I knew everyone was there because of me and I felt like I had to please everyone. I love the idea of being with friends and family for something laid back, but after the rehearsal dinner and wedding, thats just such a long weekend of our weddingness. Then again, maybe I won’t want it to end on Saturday night?
I am also thinking about the fact that the actual wedding will fly by… I guess it will be the only time in my life to bring those closest to us together in one place celebrating the most important thing in my life… why not savor it?
Post # 9
we’re doing a brunch the next day because i always felt like i didn’t get to see enough of the bride and groom as a guest. I want to be able to see our friends and family that are coming out for us!
is it traditional? i’ve only been to two weddings where there was a brunch the next day (both where a lot of friends/family flew in for the big day)… and i’ve got to a LOT of weddings!
Post # 10
We are going to do a brunch the next morning. Not for all the guests, but like just the wedding party, family, close friends if they want. It will be a time for us to just relax and hang out, and not have to talk to everyone and “be perfect” like you said the wedding day is. It will be really casual and fun! 🙂
Post # 11
I suppose if it is casual and relaxed I would really enjoy it. Hmm… I suppose I need to just think on it! I guess I’m also in high wedding stress mode with less than 4 months to go, so I’m not thinking about how the day after, everything will be over and done and no more planning or worrying!
@birdofafeather: I don’t know if it is “traditional” per se, but around my parts it’s one of those little southern things people like to do. (I certainly wouldn’t mind eating some home cooked sausage casserole!) 🙂
Post # 12
We did it and we loved it. It was relaxed (everyone in jeans and ponytails) and good food and great company. It totally different feel and dynamic from a reception and its additional time to spend with close friends and family. We loved it and we’d do it again in a heartbeat.