Post # 1
My fiance and I were hoping to see some of our friends one last time before they hit the road (90% of people are from out of state) so we thought we’d do a brunch if anyone wanted to join. We are paying for the entire wedding ourselves and don’t have the extra cash to treat people so we figured we’d spread the “invite” by word of mouth. However, I called the brunch restaurant and they absolutely require a headcount a few days ahead as it’s a popular place and people would most likely not get a seat/have a long wait if we just show up with 20+ people. I found a post from a while back with wording that I thought was pretty clear and non-offensive, what would you think if you got this in an email?
Post # 3
We are doing the same thing. Most people are from out of town and wedding is over an hour from our house, so we will be staying in the same hotel wedding night. I’m spreading the word about a no host brunch the next morning and plan on putting a note in each welcome bag for those staying with the pricing among other things. Hotel said I can give them an approximate head count the day before but as of now they have it noted to block out a portion of the restaurant.
Post # 2
I think it sounds great. With a totally optional event like this I don’t think you should have any concerns about not hosting. Many people will probably just be happy to get a little more time with you. And if they prefer not to come, it’s no biggie.
Post # 4
I’d be completely fine as a guest with that wording! 🙂
Post # 6
I think it gets the point across without the typical etiquette issues. We did a post wedding bbq at my in-law’s house with out of town guests and that was really fun.
As the restaurant wants a specific head count do you know if you will be billed in the case of no-shows?
Post # 5
This has become a tradition in our family. DH has exes so there are steps and exes at every function. We actually all get along so it is nice to have one last chance to socialize.
Post # 7
sharksgrl99: cbgg: MsquareM: WestTexasCowgirl: thanks for the positive comments, we’re sending them out tonight!
Treejewel19: this is a great point, i’ll definitely call and double check that. perhaps we can have them hold the tables for 15-30 min and then free them up for no shows.
Post # 8
I think what you have is worded fine. We used something like,
Saturday, November 1, 2014
All guests are welcome to attend, however, this is not a catered event and all guests will be responsible for their own meals.
Post # 9
I oersonally still would find it odd to receive what appears to be an invitation to an event that is not being hosted.
Instead, I would suggest a simple e-mail (without the invitation-like graphic) with wording such as:
If you’re looking for a great, local restaurant at which to have brunch the day after our wedding, we are happy to recommend NameofEstablishmentHere. We also plan to dine there that day prior to heading off on our honeymoon.
The cost of the brunch is $XX per person. To help our friends and family avoid potentially long wait times at the restaurant, we plan to make a single, large-group reservation for 11 a.m. Please let us know if you would like us to add your name(s) to the list.
We can’t wait to see you at the wedding!
Bride and Groom
Post # 10
I was trying to edit the typo (personally, instead of “oersonally”) in my prior comment and also to add a placeholder for the date of your event into my suggested language. However, either my internet service or the WB site wouldn’t load my text into the edit box. So, I’m posting these corrections separately.