Post # 1
As a groom, I want to know what is the fascination about the PWC? Do brides really dislike their hair so much that they want to change it?
All the girls I know treat their hair as a sacred thing. Is the PWC a tradition that started recently or has that always been the case.
My fiance chopped it right after we got engaged but it is letting it grow for the wedding. I don’t know if she’ll chop it again afterwards. I like her long hair but if she’s happy with the short hair, I guess that will have to do.
Post # 3
Personally, I am just growing my hair for the wedding, and it sounds like your fi is doing the same thing. I really don’t want my hair long, I just want a nice updo, and yes, I realize how silly that sounds. Therefore after the wedding I will be very happy to chop it all off, and while I’m at it donate it so at least I’m doing all of this for a good cause.
Post # 4
It’s great to have a man’s point of view.
Like you, my hubby loves my long hair. When I was younger the long hair was great and it behaved differently. As I have gotten older things haven’t been working out like it used to. Without going into too much detail, it just didn’t work for me.
I am a very low maintenance person, so I need my hair to cooperate. With it being long I had way too many bad hair days. Like your fiance, I also grew out my hair for the wedding. For me it was to allow the stylist to have more options especially since I wanted an updo. The day after the wedding though, I went for my PWC and I do not regret it. I LOVE it and really that’s what it should be about.
I know my hubby loved the long hair but he didn’t have to deal with it. He didn’t have to take time to style it or kill the knots that seem to increase with longer curly hair. The great thing is that he loves me for me with or without long hair. That’s what matters.
PS: He grows out his facial hair, I chop my hair… We’re equal 🙂
Post # 5
My fiance LOVES my long hair. It goes halfway down my back, just to give you an idea. It also weighs a ton. It’s extremely thick and I had to stop dyeing it because it took SO long at the salon. I break ponytail holders and if I go to sleep with my hair wet, it will still be a little damp in the morning.
I love my hair, but I need a break. It was long for a couple of years and then when I got engaged, I was afraid to cut it. So it’s been REALLY long for coming up on four years now. I promised him the honeymoon and then it’s coming off.
I’ll probably grow it out again in a few years, but right now I need a break from the style and the hassle of it.
Post # 6
Mine is long. About 6 inches past the top of my shoulder. Naturally wavy, I can wear it straight or wavy. It was long before the wedding, and will stay long now after the wedding. I never understood the PWC either. Perhaps most people had shorter hair and got tired of the growing out process? I can see the POV of the other posters on here -if you have difficult hair, then its easier to cut. I dunno. My stylist also told me to never ever cut my hair above my shoulders, so that helps!
Post # 7
I can understand it. I’ve been growing my hair out – I’ve had pretty short hair ever since my FI and I started dating – so I can have more options for the wedding, and because I was just sick of the constant trims needed for short hair. So it’s been growing out (my FI really has no hair preference) and after the wedding, I’ll probably have it trimmed up so it looks more clean. Right now I’m just rocking an undisciplined mass of hair and it drives me nuts. I think I’ll keep it long-ish for awhile, just to have something different.
My hair is definitely not a sacred thing to me. It always grows back 🙂
Post # 8
Yea…I think a lot of brides just like to have long wedding hair, but get so sick of if it in the end that it gets the chop.
Post # 9
I forgot to mention that I also like to change things up. From 4th grade until I was a senior in HS I had VERY long curly hair. Long enough to sit on it, so as I got older I was also looking for a change. I grow it out then chop it drastically. It’s cool to have different looks.
Post # 10
I will get a trim after the wedding, maybe a few inches, but I like my hair at shortest at shoulder length. No PWC for me as T likes it as it is also.
I don’t think it’s a wedding tradition, just that some women who don’t normally have long hair sometimes grow theirs out for the wedding day hairdo!
Post # 11
Now my friends (and I got barely above the shoulders once) did the pregnancy chop. You’re always feeling hotter and different when pregnant and I swear that’s when my friends did any haircutting!
Post # 12
I don’t understand it either! I have have been growing my hair since the beginning of high school and it is now about halfway down my back. I don’t want it any longer but I like having long hair and didn’t grow it out just for the wedding. I don’t agree with other people who say long hair is high maintenance, other than using a lot of conditioner I feel like I do a lot less maintenance than when it was shorter. Since I have natural texture, I don’t need to do anything to get it to have shape. When I had shorter hair, the texture made it point every which way which made it take a lot longer to tame it into submission!
Post # 13
I did it backwards. I did a pre-wedding chop and now after the wedding, I’m growing it out. Some people told me not to cut it before the wedding and once I did, my mom goes “oh great! now what are you going to do with it?!” It ended up pretty hacked up the first time so right before the wedding I actually took more off and I loved it!
Hair is just hair, it doesn’t make a person. I think of it as an accessory–somedays I want to play it up and other days (like today) I don’t.
Post # 14
I’m growing my hair out for the wedding (like many other posters) and I plan on cutting my hair after the honeymoon. My hair is extremely thick and wavy (in a bad perm way). To dry it and straighten it every morning it takes a lot of time. After growing it out for a year, I’m going to want it to be closer to my normal length (shoulder length).
Its not a tradition at all. Most of us are just returning to our normal length.
Post # 15
@MissAsB – I know I didn’t say long hair is high maintenance. If you had my hair texture and type it would be high maintenance. Growing up it wasn’t but it has changed since then.
With the long hair I had recently, I had to scrunch a lot and blow dry for volume. When I cut my hair short I don’t need to blow dry. Just add the products and run. That’s how it used to be when I was in HS and it dried perfectly but my hair isn’t as thick as it was back then so the long hair was just too heavy. I miss it!
Post # 16
@RoddyBride: Agreed. I’m in the same boat. I love my hair but it is just SO thick and heavy. Very high maintenence.