Post # 1
I’ve spent nearly my entire life with long hair. I’m talking, halfway down my back, bright blonde hair. People tell me all the time how pretty it is….
The issue? I look 17. Seriously.
I’m 5’1” with super long hair. I have a baby-face to boot. I’m also a teacher, so looking like my students is a big self-confidence issue with me. I’m debating chopping my hair to chin with a sleek bob.
I’ve never done it, and I’m terrified I’ll regret it! How will I know if it looks good? Many times I have cut a few inches off and missed my long hair, waiting patiently for it to grow.
Post # 3
I have really long hair as well! People comment on how long and pretty it is quite a bit but honesty? Its gotten super high maintenence as of late. I’ve been keeping it long for the wedding (29 days!!) but I am so tired of it. It tangles at the drop of a hat despite regular trimmings and gets in the way all day every day! I dont even do anything with it anymore because its too much work!
I’m totally doing a post wedding chop and I am counting down the days! I’ve had a short bob like you are describing done and got a lot of compliments on it so I think yours will look fabulous! Maybe check out some articles that give you advice for hairstyles for your face shpe or post a picture of you here so we can see your face shape! If you’re afraid of going too short maybe go for a long bob first and see if you like it? That’s what I’m doing come November!
Post # 4
@OnceUponATime: I’ve had really long hair and chopped it of to a page twice. I’ll never do it again. Every time it felt like such an adventure while at the hairdresser, out on the street I felt like a plucked chicken. Total trauma. Worst time was about 7 years ago, I went home, put on Grieg and cried for two hours until my best friend came over, turned on ABBA, got me drunk and forced me to go out dancing.
Seriously, I teach at uni and I don’t look that much older than my students. I guess that a shorter cut would make me look more mature, but you’re only young/moderately young for such a short time – better embrace it! Also… You might want to ask you husband what he thinks. He might be into the long, I know mine is. Two photos (not at each end of the bell curve, but this was what I was able to find):
Thing is, I always feel so much softer with long hair! Softer and more feminine.
Post # 5
I chopped off my long hair into a cute bob about 3 years ago and although I loved it at the time, I’m happy that my hair is long again. I found it to be quite high maitenance because you can’t just throw you hair into a bun/pony tail/braid on those lazy days and if you don’t blow dry it nicely it just doesn’t look right.
I’m planning on cutting my hair a few inches after the wedding, but it will still be a bit below shoulder length.
Post # 6
I am currently growing my hair out for my wedding (it’s already pretty freaking long) and I CANNOT WAIT to chop it off, lol. My hair doesn’t look good just brushed, so I always blow dry/straighten it and it’s just starting to take WAY TOO LONG! About two years ago, I chopped it all off but I missed long hair then. Then again, I am already thinking about chopping it all off like that after the wedding (just maybe a little longer than last time)!
Post # 7
I chopped mine 4 months after the wedding. So happy I did! I’ve always been told how young I look and I think the shorter hair makes me look a bit more mature.
Post # 8
My hair has not been shorter than shoulder length in many years. I’ve also never let it grow really long. I’m planning to let it grow to my waist, then I want to get a big chop before I’m 30.
Post # 9
@OnceUponATime: Honestly I’m not really sure how you expect people to advise you if you don’t post any pictures.
Post # 10
@eocenia: I love the look of your hair long, I can imagine why you feel much softer and more feminine. It definitely shows those characteristics.
@emsy3110: Thats so interesting that you say its high maintenance! Do you normally blow-dry/style your hair? If I want to leave my hair down I HAVE to wash, dry, and flat-iron it or I look a hot mess. lol
@Ruby-Redshoes: lol, I wasn’t looking for advice with what do, I was more interested in hearing experiences from others.
@Britt_RN: Such a big difference! That’s exactly the kind of change I would like. I can see why you feel more mature with shorter hair!
@weatherbug: haha. I’ve also been looking forward to cutting my hair for months.
Post # 11
I cycle. I grow mine out and then chop it all off every 4ish years and donate it. My hair was long layers when I got married last October, the shortest layer about an inch below my shoulder, and the long layers in the back about midway down my spine. It had been 5 years since I had a drastic cut and I just decided it was time to donate again.
Short hair is way more work for me. With long hair, I only wash/dry/iron it every 3rd day. With short hair, I pretty much have to wash and dry it every day because it goes in all directions if I don’t tame it. I like the way I look with short hair, but I prefer long hair because there are more styling options. My husband is a fan of the short hair. It’s nice that it only takes 10 minutes to dry instead of 30.
I say go for it. It’ll grow back!
Post # 12
@OnceUponATime: You’ll probably think I’m a complete nutcase but I vividly remember my mother cutting off my long hair when I was less than 2 years old. I was traumatized and cried for days! After that, my mother promised me she’d never cut my hair short again, and I never did it either when I grew up, the shortest I’ve ever had was shoulder length – and I hated it!
I look a bit like you, a short blonde, nobody ever takes me seriously because they think I’m no older than 20. Still, I’m terrified of cutting my hair short and I’m not tempted to change it – I’m even afraid to get a fringe! lol A few years ago, after a bad breakup, I did consider chopping my hair page-length though. I was a little afraid so I decided to do shoulder-length first. I ended up hating it, like I said, so I was really glad I didn’t go shorter.
How about you try the same thing, go shoulder length first? It’s not such a dramatic change and if you like it, you can always take it a step further!
Post # 13
I cut my hair to a bob about 3 years ago and totally regretted it, still trying to grow it out to where it was before.
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
I always regret cutting my hair. Not doing it!!
Post # 15
I haven’t had a wedding, so there is no post-wedding chop for me, however! I always said I would have extremely long flowy hair for mine. Well, I got sick of waiting around, and in April of this year, I went from super long hair to a pixie! I love it!! But now that we are planning on getting married next fall, I am trying to grow it out to a bob.
Sorry for huuuge pictures!
Post # 16
I had to cut my hair due to excessive heat damage that accumulated after I started using new heat styling tools with a little too much enthusiasm. I had very long hair and it got chopped to just above the shoulders. I remember thinking I might cry. I even warned the stylist. As it grew out, I treasured every new inch of growth, and I was so jealous of girls who had the long hair I used to have.
The chop was necessary, and I needed it to help turn my hair around, but I would never do it again. Other people said they loved it on me, but hair is about more than how others see it. It’s what frames your face and tops off every outfit, so you have to feel good about it. My hair is now finally back to the length it used to be, and I’m long overdue for a trim, but I don’t even want to to get one…
For what it’s worth, styling my shorter hair was not any easier or less time consuming than my long hair. I have an excellent hair dryer and have gotten the approach down to a science, so my hair takes me 10-15 minutes from wet to dry and styled no matter what length it is.