Post Wedding Hubby?

posted 3 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ShabbyChicBee:  I don’t know how I can say this without him sounding like an ass… but I feel like he is more respectful, attentive, and willing to work through things.  Not that he has ever sucked at this stuff, but it just feels a little bit like there’s more of something.  He’s not an emotional feelings type of guy, and he makes such an effort now to try to understand what I’m feeling.  Love that man!!

Post # 5
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681 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@emelee:  I noticed similar changes.  Not that my DH was ever a jerk or anything about my feelings, but since the wedding, dissagreements don’t turn in to arguments as much, and I think its because he’s more willing to hear out & try to understand my side of things.  He’s also been more open to compromises, and making sure we’re BOTH happy with any arangement.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Uh oh – cut to confused bees everywhere reading this and assuming their man will change and all problems will be solved by marriage

 

JK – good to know you guys are doing well

 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

My Dh is the same respectful gentleman he always was, no changes at all.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@sassy411:  Same here!

My husband didn’t really change at all.

Post # 9
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490 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@skippydarling:  Ha!  No!  I’d still be wonderfully happy if he had stayed exactly the same.  We had our problems before marriage, we have them now, we’ll have them forever, and we’re ok with that!

Post # 10
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8706 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Nope. My husband didn’t change a single iota. I didn’t expect him to.

Post # 11
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542 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@sassy411:  Same here! I feel like nothing has changed since we got married. He was wonderful before and still is. We are lucky girls!

Post # 12
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

DH has this new sense of responsibilty, which I completely adore.

Post # 13
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6506 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Well, my experience of being a newly wed was not good. I wrote a couple posts about it but to sum it up: DH freaked out and changed quite a bit. TBH, if we were not already married I don’t think I would have stayed with him. That being said he agreed counseling and now we’re doing great! I’m sure I’m in the minority with this experience but I thought I would share anyways.

We are doing good now! I wouldn’t say that there are any major changes due to the actual marriage but rather due to the counseling.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Oh definitely! My DH’s previous job required extensive travel (like 9 months out of the year) and was incredibly stressful. He was always stressed out and irritable. He already has a bit of an OCD personality – he likes things “just right”. 

Fast forward about a month after we got engaged, DH interviewed for a new job, which he got and then started in a couple months later. The new job, while the same as his old one, still requires travel and is stressful – but no where NEAR stressful as his old one. We jokingly say he’s “cool as a cucumber” now. He’s overall more enjoyable to be around, and has lightened up a lot!!

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

raylene29

you know i feel he is def more lovey dovey and affectionate. could be the honeymoon faze lol even though weve been together for eight years. but hes also more stern now. he assumed this role as alpha. which is okay and maybe just a faze. its kinda of hot but i would prefer more of a partner role. and ive talked to him about it. hes super understanding but there were a lot of times (just in our relationship) that hes told me im acting like a mom to him. this cant be an uncommon thing. but since weve got married there have been a few times where ive been like ok dad! he hates it haha i think its been an interesting transition from long term girlfriend to wife. advice is patience!! i need to listen to myself too. listen instead of talking! i also have this problem lol. but no talking isnt good. we talk everything threw. everything.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

Personality-wise, my (new – yay!) husband is the same.  There are teeeeny tiny little things I’ve noticed like him rushing to hold the door for me or waiting for me to get up from the table before he gets up, and insisting I have the last peice of sushi when we’re at dinner.  Not that he ever let the door slam in my face or ate all my food lol but after 7 yrs being together, sometimes that kind of stuff is forgotten, but he seems to have picked it back up.  And like a poster above, he does have this new sense of responsibility to look after his family.  It’s all very sweet.

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