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    TingTing    September 12, 2010   Los Angeles

    DH and i graduated from a MBA school this past May. we got married on 9/12 (YAY!)

    due to our budget, we had to limit our guest count to no more than 60 and thus couldn't invite our MBA friends. some non-MBA friends couldn't make it to the wedding due to pre-scheduled business trips.

    we are thinking about having a celebration party for those who weren't invited and those who couldn't make it to our wedding.

    has anyone done this? do you mind sharing the details of your celebration party?

    i'm not sure where we can go and what we can do and i want to keep it budget-friendly.

    our apartment is too small to accommodate guests of more than 10, otherwise, a relaxing afternoon home "gathering" would be perfect...

     
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    Amaryllis    July 2, 2011  

    I think it is a great idea, but I would NOT say that it has anything to do with the wedding. If you relate it to the wedding, you are basically telling these people they were the B-list and it can potentially come across as gift-grabby. I do think just having a dinner party for 10 would be nice, or you could book a place for a party the same way you would for a shower and just call it a dinner party anyway. :)

     
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    TingTing    September 12, 2010   Los Angeles

    @Amaryllis: thanks for your fast response! i would not ask or want any gifts from the celebration party, but i do want to associate it with the wedding since that's the purpose of the party. our mba friends do know that they weren't invited due to budget, and they are actually the ones proposing a celebration party :)

     
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    teaadntoast    04/23/2010   New York, NY

    I think a simple cocktail party with the general theme of "celebration" would be perfect.  You don't have to say it's related to the wedding, since it seems like most of the guests will know anyway.

     
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    Rgeddy    June 13, 2010   Raleigh, NC

    I agree, having it be a wedding party is just asking for more gifts!  Maybe host a barbeque or a dinner party where you supply all the food & drinks but keep it low key.  If they want it then go for it!

     
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    YellowBee3    July 2, 2011   St. Louis

    I would say as long as you are hosting and not asking for gifts then go for it! I think it sounds like a great way to celebrate with your friends!

     
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    lilacwire    October 29, 2011   Denver

    You could even put a "no gifts please - we just want the pleasure of your company" on the invite, allowing you to say it's a wedding celebration, but without seeming grabby.

     
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    LetsGoPens    October 13, 2012   Pittsburgh

    One of my co workers is doing this. She is havving her wedding on a Saturday for close family, then on Sunday she is having a lot of people come to her house for a picnic.

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    The summer I finished my MBA many loooong years ago in '98, we had a couple friends who got married and they did the same thing. Few of us were invited up to San Francisco for their traditional Chinese wedding. When they returned to town they threw a party in their home for the rest of our friends. It was more the rowdy student party kind than a formal dinner party :)

     @TingTing: Congrats on your MBA! Which school did you go to? UCI here...

     
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    TingTing    September 12, 2010   Los Angeles

    thanks for all the inputs!

    just curious, would people buy gifts even though there's no gift registry of any kind? the reason i'm asking is that i would never think of an invitation to any kind of parties, including post-wedding parties/celebrations, as gift-grabbing. i would more than likely want to buy something for the couple, but that's what i want to do, it's a personal choice, it doesn't mean that the couple are expecting any kind of gift from me or any other guest. i am just a bit confused as to why gifting is such a sensitive subject.

    @meliss: that kind of party is actually the kind i want! but our apartment is way too small for that :( i got my MBA from USC, but i got my BS degree from UCLA, huuuge rivalry, LOL!

     

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