(Closed) Post-wedding rant: Why do people think they can tell me what went wrong?!

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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1628 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As far as the in-laws, your husband needs to step in and tell them to BACK OFF. That they are hurting your feelings–it wasn’t your fault, you are dealing with it, and bringing it up sounds like a personal criticism and is bumming you out on the memories of your wedding–when you should be focusing on everything that went RIGHT!

And honestly, if a 15 min glitch with food service during cocktail hour is the worst thing that happened, count yourself lucky! People shouldn’t be commenting on it to you even if it was much worse–you know it happened! Counter any naysayer with the things YOU are focusing on–your awesome dress, how wonderful that first dance felt, the delish cake, etc.

Post # 4
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503 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

no matter what you do and how hard you try to perfect things that are out of your control there will always be those people who will search and find something to bitch about.

and I bet you that 99% of people didn’t even care to notice any glitch because they were busy enjoying themselves, the event, and life.

you gotta ignore the miserable people, and tell your DH to tell them unless they have a plan on how to make it better they can graciously shut up  🙂

Post # 5
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

15 minutes?? That’s nothing. 

Grrrrr if it was me, I’d probably say something really snide about how there was always plenty of some type of food available. 

Post # 6
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1306 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Wow. I can’t believe people have the nerve to complain about your wedding to you. especially about a 15 min. glitch in food. It’s not like they were sitting around with NOTHING for an houror so. Try nott o let it ruin your memories….other than that, I’m sure your day was smooth 🙂

Post # 7
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46159 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

When people say things like this, I would turn it back on them.

Instead of responding ask them a question “What possible good do you think it can do by telling me this?”

Post # 8
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5969 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

That’s too bad, really it is.  But on the bright side, if that’s the worst thing that happened, running out of certain foods for fifteen minutes, well hey, that’s not too bad at all!  If your in laws keep bringing it up and it keeps making the day about food, which it wasn’t, I would tell them I was working on resolving things with the caterer, but not too terribly worried since no one starved to death at the reception.

Post # 9
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1460 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I would just smile and respond, “I know and, in the grand scheme of things, I’m glad that is the worst thing that happened.”

The people that are saying this to you are probably those miserable, wretched people that are never happy and thrive on making others miserable.  Don’t let them succeed.  Your wedding and reception were a success.  🙂 

Post # 10
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317 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

They had to go a WHOLE 15 MINUTES without food from SOME (not all) food stations?  Waaahhh, cry me a river! It is extrememly rude for them to complain about this. Your dinner sounds wonderful. How ungrateful of them to complain.

Post # 11
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5011 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@carolsdaughter:  My in-laws were like that. They’ve only ever really criticised our wedding and complained about little things that they think went wrong. It hurts but ignore them.

Post # 12
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2693 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Wow, that is so mean.  To complain to YOU of all people about a 15 minute glitch that was out of your control is just uncalled for.  And it’s not like they competely ran out of food… and it’s just the cocktail hour.  They were not going to starve.  Geesh, some people.

Post # 13
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

All I know is that “plenty of cheese, crab, and mediterranean food” would equal a very happy Eglantine. Your in-laws must be professional complainers. I’m sorry. Please don’t let petty complaints mar your memories!

Post # 15
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790 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I can completely understand your feeling defensive about their comments. The day is over and all you want to hear is how lovely it was, and really, that’s all anyone should say. It’s not their money and so it’s not their business to be so concerned about you and your parents getting reimbursed. Can you tell them, or have your husband tell them, “we appreciate your concern but when you bring up how we got ripped off, it makes us feel that our wedding day was not a success and we want to be positive and feel happy about our wedding, so we would appreciate it if you wouldn’t bring this subject up anymore.” Or something like that? 

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