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Hi there,

 I can relate to your situation.  Here's my story:

 One of my best friends is engaged too.  She already has her wedding date, but i don't.  She wanted to look for wedding dresses together, so I went and thought it would be fun.  While trying on dresses we met other brides who told us about trunk shows and that we should check them out.  I got a high from trying on dresses so that night I decided to search for trunk shows and book appointments.  The next day I had an appointment, and only my parent's and grandmother could come with me.  I tried on several dresses and I tried on this one particular dress that I thought was nice but my parents loved it.  They thought I should buy it, even though I didn't have a wedding date, but because I would save 10% off from the trunk show.  So I bought it. 

This was in December 2008.  I still don't have a wedding date, but it will most likely be Spring of 2010.  The dress is beautiful, but I feel like I will regret not trying on other dresses and looking for the "One".  I too, don't think it photographs nicely.  When I think about my dress, I think its  "ok", but I still dream of getting a show stopper dress. 

I don't blame anyone but myself for my stupidity.  I still ponder getting another dress, but my parent's think I'm crazy and that the dress is the most beautiful dress they've seen.  But to me, it doesn't feel right.  I still want to look.  Maybe its just being a bride and that I'm very indecisive.  But I still can't fathom wasting all that money, especially in this economy. 

 If you could go back, would you buy another dress?  If you did what dress would you have gotten?  What would you have done with the other dress? 

That's the reason my wife had two dresses at our wedding. She first bought a dress that she liked but she wasn't in love with. Then, right before the wedding she found a dress that she felt in love with and bought that one too. She ended up wearing both of them :)

The first one for the ceremony and first part of the reception since it was more traditional and the second one for the remaining part of the reception.

I know how you feel. My dress isn't my dream dress, but I was more motivated by price than anything. The dress I wanted cost way more than I was willing to spend (not necessarily because of my budget - I'm just a cheapskate), so I went with the cheapest one I found. I'm hoping I won't look back and regret it.

One possible idea: A friend of mine had something of a wedding day photo disaster. Almost none of her pictures from the ceremony turned out, and she just wasn't satisfied with the ones from the reception. So, she went to a local bridal boutique, picked out the dress of her dreams and rented it. Her husband rented a tux and they had a photographer friend take a bunch of pictures of them. It sounds kind of contrived, but looking at these pictures now, I would never guess that they weren't from her actual wedding day. 

I was also blinded by the 10% off trunk show discount and bought a dress that was not my dream dress.  I knew I wanted a dress with either lace or beading, and this dress had neither- it was just plain white with a jeweled belt.  A week later I bought my dream dress, so now I am out over $2K -

I do not regret getting the second dress but I wish I was not so rushed when I bought the first one!  Anyone want to buy a brand new Priscilla of Boston platinum dress? haha