Post # 1
So I got married July 3rd and between the honeymoon, going out to eat more and my husband’s terrible diet, I have gained several pounds and am NOT happy about it. I have always been in the “normal” weight range based on BMI but in the past few years it was definitely on the higher side of “normal.” I stepped on the scale today and was not happy with what I saw…
I’ve been an intern this summer at a hospital and sometimes I will have to walk for up to 6 hours (in an 8 hour shift) delivering medications, so I really don’t think I’m completely out of shape. However, I am so tired by the time I get home (I have to drive an hour each way to get to work and the hours alternate so I don’t have a steady schedule), I just don’t want to work out! Obviously I need to start working out regularly. School starts soon so at least I will have a more set schedule. There is a gym really close to my house so I should probably join again.
My husband absolutely HATES vegetables. He eats potatoes and has started to eat lettuce recently (after 5 years of dating) but only if it’s on a sandwich or tacos. I love to cook and I try to be accommodating to what he likes (we have lived together for a few years, but we are just newlyweds after all!) and as a result my eating habits have become terrible because I make what he likes. I bake instead of fry, don’t use oil, buy extremely lean meat, we don’t eat a lot of red meat, etc.
Does anyone have any suggestions about cooking? Should I keep trying to modify foods that my husband loves to make them a little less unhealthy, make two meals, tell him to make his own food (he would eat worse than he does now then!)??? Help!
Post # 3
My Darling Husband didn’t used to eat salad either. It wasn’t that he didn’t like it – he just didn’t want to eat it. I started making other salads – tomato/mozzarella for example for myself and then making him whatever he wanted. After a while he’s start to eat salads with me. I know this may not be an option but throwing together a huge salad for yourself in the morning to nibble on throughout the day and then cooking something smaller for your husband is probably the easiest way for you to get your eating habits back where you want it. That way if you decide to make chicken for him you can always save a bit for yourself to toss into the salad you made earlier 😉
As for working out – well, you already said you need the motivation. Do you have a buddy you can go to? Or the other thing to do would be to join a fitness forum for motivation. I’m trying to keep my weight at where it’s at post-wedding (luckily I didn’t gain during the honeymoon!) and I agree it’s tough. I wish you luck!
Post # 4
I would make what he likes in a healthier version, and smaller portions, and add veggies on the side (salad or something other) that you can have.
You can explain to him that he doesn’t have to have the veggies if he doesn’t want to, but that you want to be healthier so there will be veggies on the table.. (he should probably take small portions even if he doesn’t like it now, he might start to like it with time).
Post # 5
Weight is usually more based on what you eat than on exercise, so I’d say if you want to drop a few pounds, that’s where you should look, especially if it’s just a little bit of weight.
Maybe you can continue to modify foods that both you and your husband can share? I know that you don’t want to cook 2 entirely separate meals, or leave your husband all to his own, but perhaps you can make a side of vegetables every night that is just for you. Even if it’s just those veggie steam packs from the grocery store. So even if you are eating almost the same things as him, you are filling up more on veggies and eating less of the marginally healthy foods.
Also, you could look for recipes that sneak in vegetables. I know there’s some famous cookbook that is based off this principle, but certain things I make have vegetables but don’t necessarily takes like it (chili, enchiladas, meatloaf…)
Post # 6
No suggestions – I just wanted to say I can relate. The gym and I have not been friends since before the wedding and that needs to change. For me, if I’m working out, I’m eating better because I’m more focused on my health.
Post # 7
I normally cook 2 meals for us. I only eat chicken and turkey stuff, FH eats meat and hates veggies. We normally share a side normally pasta but Ill have veggies or salad and he has meat
Post # 8
I agree that weight gain is based more on what you eat. When I moved in with Fiance we started eating out a lot more and I adjusted to his portion size, which is a lot more than I needed to be eating. In the last few months I’ve dropped 15 pounds just by watching what I eat and drinking more water. Watch your portion size when you eat meat. It’s so easy to put a big steak on your plate, but a real serving size is only 3-4oz. I also recommend those steam in a bag veggies that you can just pop in the microwave. Even if we wants his meat and potatoes, you can have a smaller portion of the meat and some veggies. Who knows, he may even start to put some on his plate just because they’re there. Also watch your snacks. I know it can be hard to grab a snack when you’re running around all day, and a lot of the convenient things are really not all that healthy. Try to keep a piece of fruit on hand for a snack at work, or maybe some of those special K cereal bars. (I really like the chocolate pretzel ones)
Post # 10
Try cooking more at home. Me and my Fiance try to eat in as much as we can. The month we got engaged i gained 10 pounds because we were always out celebrating! Now we spend alot of nights in making helathy dinners. Our favourite is just a roasted chicken with a side of broccoli or carrots and some potatoes for him lol. We also make fish alot! So far so good I am back down to my normal weight!
Post # 11
you are obviously getting plenty of exercise – and I agree that your diet is what really need to change. But why can’t he cook for himself? I have been having a similar problem, but I finally told my husband that I can’t eat the way he wants to eat, so he can either eat what I cook (lean meat, lots of veggies) or he can fend for himself. As a result, both of us have been eating healthier and if hubby wants something, he just makes it himself, and just for himself so I’m not tempted
Post # 12
I agree with Dragonsus–if you are doing the cooking, then make what you want most of the time, and what he wants only some of the time. If you had kids who didn’t like veggies, would you agree to feed them only chicken nuggets and fries and live on those yourself? Probably not. If your hubby doesn’t like to cook, it won’t take him long to eat what you make. I’m a vegetarian, and my fiance is not. I have told him that although I don’t cook meat, he’s welcome to buy and cook his own at home. Guess who never eats meat at home because it’s too much work to shop and cook? And if this totally fails and he eats junk anyway, there’s not much you can do. He’s an adult and is ultimately responsible for his own decisions.