(Closed) Post-wedding work adventure?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Should I go to camp?
    Yes : (5 votes)
    63 %
    No : (3 votes)
    38 %
  • Post # 3
    2105 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I could have written this a year ago!  My Fiance and I were long distance, and right after I moved in with him, I got an offer to work at a summer camp for 8 weeks.  I had wanted to do this for a long time and was a great opportunity… but when it came down to it, I just couldn’t imagine being away from my Fiance any longer now that I had moved in.  I ended up turning down the job and don’t regret it, but I also work in a job that makes me think “what if my Fiance was suddenly taken away from me?  Would I regret not spending that time with him?”  You have to choose what’s right for your life and if you’ll look back and regret anything.  Either way, good luck!!!

    Post # 4
    339 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I think in the long run 2 months is a very short amount of time.You have gone longer with out seeing him I am guessing.  I think there are a few sindes to this you need to look at.

    1. Will you regret not doing it?

    2. Will it help you in some way (ie career, life goal ect)

    3. Will you r new husband be able to visit?

    4. have you talked to your Fiance about this and how does he feel?



    Post # 5
    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t know where you are coming from or what camp you are considering (and what position). These things will all effect oyur experience. That being said, I too had wanted to work at summer came for some years and did for two awesome summers in college. I loved both summers and only wish it was acceptable to take summers off from my real job to continue and work at camp. I was in a relationship when I first applied and about the time I accepted the job, the relationship got serious and I thought about declining so we could spend the summer together but I decided I wantes to stick with camp. We wrote letters daily and it was a lot of fun getting mail, even though the messages were often on a delay. Twice he met me half way on a day off, this is a benefit oyu would not have as an international but maybe he could meet you for some post-camp travels? Things to consider in your decision. In my experience, both at the girls camp I was at and our neighboring boys camps, no one was married. There were several international workers and former campers making a diverse staff and everyone was super freindly. Most of the staff was under 21 and in college. So, nights off generally involve socializing with neighboring staffs, going to bars in the nearest town if you are of age or hanging out and drinking in the woods if you are not. Some of the neighboring camps (we all met in the one town) had night curfews, we did not. These are the type of things that vary from camp to camp, we were allowed to use the facilities on our day off (ex. boating on the lake), others were not, etc.

    You really need to determine what your motivations were to apply and if they still stand. I think talking to your Fiance about how he feels is important too. 8 weeks is really not so long but if you will both be miserable it is not worth it. There is also the issue of temptation, since a lot of staff are single, you may end up in a situation you are not comfortable with. I recall a couple of instances of serious flirting and know of a few people who crossed lines while at camp with boyfriends at home. I don’t want to make this sound negative but give you an idea of the realities of a staff summer at camp. I would go back in a second if I had the chance, even now as a married woman out of college but that is not the typical demographic. Before I go on forever, just PM me if I can help.


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