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Post Wedding...what to do with the dress?

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    ebmarshall    October 31, 2010   Virginia

    I can't decide what to do with my wedding dress. I love it, but obviously I'm never going to wear it again. But do I keep it for sentimental reasons? When I was little I always wanted to see my mother's wedding dress, but she got married in her sister's dress so she didn't have it. Whenever I have a daughter, would she want to see the dress? Possibly wear it? (I won't hold my breath for that) My mother-in-law has paid for it to be cleaned and stored and thinks that of course I should keep it, but what am I going to do with it? Should I sell it and help another bride?

    Any post wedding brides, what did you do with your dress?

     
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    mrsmurraytobe    June 11, 2011   Atlanta

    I think it really, really depends on your preference.

    As for your daughter wearing it one day, she may or may not but to me, I would keep it for more sentimental, heirloom reasons. It's THE dress and there's no way I could part with it lol. Plus, it would be something nice to keep and pass down and pull out one day to show your daughter and/or granddaughter.

    Selling it is also a good option if you need the money or just would like to help out another bride. Sure, I think it's completely fine and again, based on your personal feelings. That's really up to you and besides, you'll have the pictures forever.

    I personally am going to keep mine and put it away to one day show my daughter and if she would like to wear it, that'd be great but if not, it'll just be lovingly stored and passed down as an heirloom. My mother-in-law wore her mother's dress and it was going to be worn by my FI's cousin in September but because of the it not being properly stored, the lace was too far gone to be repaired and was too delicate. It's beautiful and just to have in the family. Believe me, though, I have definitely thought about selling it and could do it easily and make a good bit back to be put towards a lot BUT I can't :)

    Think about it, you don't have to make a decision anytime soon but make sure you're really sure because once you sell it, it's gone. Just do what makes you happy :)

     
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    mrshfmstr    May 14, 2011   ann arbor, mi

    im in a very tough spot too. im decided on wheather to keep my dress and maybe do chores around the house in it (joking of course) or to have a trash the dress photo session. id love to have pictures of my and my hubby to be under the water with me in my dress and him in a tux and rolling around on a sandy beach. i have a really flowy dress with a lot of tulle so i think its perfect for those type of pictures :) but then the other part of me wants to really keep it just in case one day my daughter who will be 2 at our wedding :) wants to wear it. but thats not very realistic ill probably have to shell out a few grand when her day comes for the dress. but it is horrible if i want to keep it for myself just to look at every now and then?

     

     
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    cyntist    September 3, 2011   Wisconsin

    I'm thinking I might donate mine to Brides Against Breast Cancer: http://www.bridesagainstbreastcancer.org/#donategown

    That would partly be in honor of my late grandmother, who was a 26-year survivor of breast cancer when she died.

     
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    Coloradolov    April 23, 2011  

    @cyntist:  I was just about to post the same thing (expect not my grandmother but many other very important women in my life - too many)

     
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    Miss OBG    May 2011  

    I think I'll keep mine.  I absolutely love the bodice, and I could see my sister or daughter one day reworking the bodice with a different style gown.  Frankly, I could probably rework it into a different type of dress if I wanted.

    The other thing is that mine's not designer or anything like that, so it's not like I'd be able to make a lot if I sold it.  It's a beautiful dress, but it seems like most classifieds are for Maggies or Moniques or other famous designers.  So I'll store it in an attic somewhere and show my kids one day.

     
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    coffeegal85    August 11, 2012   Ohio

    Depending on your religion (or lack of religion), you could turn your wedding dress into bathtizmal gowns for your babies (not sure if you want children or not though).

     
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    meliss    May 31, 2010   Los Angeles, CA

    I had four dresses (two unworn) and sold three, the fate of the last one remains to be seen. I guess I'm not sentimental like other brides.  As soon as the wedding was over I wanted them gone. They took way too much space in the closet, I was paranoid something was going to happen them if they sat there too long, and it seemed like the biggest waste to me to keep something worth $$$ that will never see the light of day again. The chances of me having a daughter who will want to wear or use my dress one day are soooo slim, I'm not even considering that. Just look at the brides on these boards, I've only seen a handful that have done this. Everyone's all about buying a new dress.

     
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    Asparagus    October 15, 2011  

    I plan on donating it.  I have son from a previous relationship, my fiance and I are not going to have kids.

    I would rather it go to someone  who could use it.

     
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    ninefivethree    June 18, 2011  

    Because of the style of the skirt, I'm going to get it altered after the wedding.  I'm going to get it cut off around knee length, maybe take out a layer of tulle so it's not so poofy, and keep it hidden and wear it again on my first anniversary!  I haven't decided what I'm going to do with the extra fabric though.

     
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    Evie19    January 21, 2012  

    I used to wish I had my mother's dress to look at and try on! I never knew why she didn't have it in storage somewhere...And then she told me that she gave it away to someone poor who could not afford a wedding dress.

    The legacy of her kindness is something I treasure much much more than the actual dress!

     
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    crebre80    November 20, 2010   Baton Rouge, LA

    I had two wedding dresses. I gave one away to another girl (it was a PERFECT fit for her).  The dress that I wore is hanging in my closet and will probably be used for a trash the dress session in which the dress isn't truly trashed... I took some really amazing bridals and I really wanted to get down and dirty and have fun in it but I couldn't because it had to be worn two weeks later lol

     
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    RachelD    September 17, 2011   Central NY


    I'm thinking about donating to www.makingmemories.org because my mother had breast cancer!


     

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