Post your best wedding dress shopping tips!

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
370 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

This probably isn’t the advice you’re looking for, but consider going shopping at least one time by yourself.  Just quietly go to a salon and try on a lot of different styles so you get a feel for what you like and don’t like.   That way, when you are with your whole entourage, you will already know what you like and can steer the group in that direction. From what I can see on this board, most of the “dress regret” posts seem to come from brides who got caught up in the moment, or felt pressured by the strong opinions of others. 

Good luck and enjoy…you have such a fun and magical experience ahead of you!  Smile

Post # 4
26 posts
  • Wedding: November 2013

You will never see everything and new, beautiful dresses are coming out all the time. Know when to say “yes, I’m done,” and mean it. Stop looking after you pick something.

Post # 5
127 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@MoonlitMagnolia:  Be open to all styles! I am one of many brides that saw themselves in a completely different style than I ended up with. Try on every silhouette. And as the PP said, going by yourself first is really a great idea, because other people (especially ones with really dominant personalities) can influence your first instinct and it’s YOUR dress and YOUR day.

Post # 6
1022 posts
Bumble bee

-keep an open mind, you may think you know what you want, and once you try it on you may be very very wrong

-try on at least one dress of every style

-be honest honest honest with everyone, your consultant and your family. You are the only one wearing this dress, if you don’t like it speak up.

-talk to your consultant a lot. Pick apart each dress daying what you like and what you don’t like. It cold be the smallest thing that spark an idea for them.

-Do NOT let anyone other than yourself/consultant run your appointment.

-Keep your group coralled, do not let them run around the store grabbing everything that THEY like.

-There will be a certain amount of humor-me dresses- meaning sister picked it out because it’s what she wants, you’ve tried it on, don’t like it- continue.

-don’t be afraid to walk away or speak up if you’re being overwhelmed.

-take as many photos as you can, it’s one thing to love a dress in the mirror and another to love it in a photo.

-don’t worry about you whole vision of he wedding now changing because you fell in love with a certain dress- happens all the time.

-once you find something that you love, really really love, STOP SHOPPING

-be nice to your consultant she/he is a person earning a paycheck and doing their best. If you feel annoyed because they have to split time between you and another bride, realize that it isn’t their fault, they are being forced by management/the company to do this. If you like them, come back at another time that is convient for you, and they will not be overbooked. If you feel they are being pushy, remeber they have bills to pay as well- and please please remeber that they are a person with thoughts and feelings as well, don’t be rude to them, don’t belittle them, don’t talk about them in another language that they probably understand right infront of them or behind their back. If you have problems with your consultant, legitimate problems, or a personality clash, just ask for someone else, and if they’re rude by all means talk to a manager- don’t let one person ruin your experience.

-remeber that you are not the only person in the world to ever get married, most people are in that store because they or someone else that they know are getting married. Just because you are a bride does not in any way shape or form entitle you to special treatment. I’m not saying you should put up with crap but leave the I’m-better-than-everyone-else-because-I-found-the-love-of-my-life complex at the door. Please also never pull out the “I should be treated special because I’m spending so much money here!!” crap, so is everyone else.- By all means don’t put up with crappy service and if you’re being treated unfairly make a stink or go somewhere else- but remeber just because you’re a bride doesn’t mean you don’t fart like the rest of us.

wow-okay- those last two are more of a ‘don’t ever do this’ I’m not implying that you would- just throwing it out there as an ex-bridal employee who had to put up with it too many times 😉

Post # 7
995 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Go alone your first time… It’s so much less stressful. I loved it.

Post # 8
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Be open minded, bring a small entourage, try on every silhoutte, start as early as possible so you have the most options and don’t feel pressured to find a dress right away

Post # 9
1028 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

@MissMiaMarch:  @iammcdibble:  +1 to shopping alone or with one MAYBE 2 people. Too many opinions will drown out your own and YOUR opinion of your dress is all that really matters on that day!

Post # 10
2051 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Take 2 people with you, MAX. Any more and there are too many opinions floating around.


Wear big pants, because your consultant will see your bum!


Also wear a white or nude strapless bra.


If you want to wear a particular accessory eg your grandmother’s veil, take it with you to every appointment.


It’s OK (in fact it’s better) to go away, think about it, and come back again. Take your time.

ETA Have to agree with PP to try on different styles. Try something on that is totally different to what you imagined. When I did that, it turned out to be my dress!

Post # 11
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

not necessarily the advice PPs are giving but….

– wear full-bottom underwear. the consultant WILL likely help you into the dresses, not that they havent encountered a thong or two… or less in their time

– consider wearing a bit of makeup & wearing your hair in something other than a ponytail– it will help you “vislualize” a little better

– explore the accessories & try on different options

– compare fabric colors in full dresses, swatches are hard to judge!

Post # 12
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Don’t buy your dress the day you fall in love with it.

*smacks forehead* Wait a few weeks. Or a month. Make sure you still love it then.

Post # 13
1194 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Go with a small group. Everytime I watch Say Yes To The Dress and they have 9 people with them it gets crazy. Ultimately your opinion is the only one that matters, so bring a handful of people who will support that. I took my mom and my MOH and that was it. It was perfect.

Be honest with your consultant about what you want. If you’ve only budgeted $1500 then don’t tell her your budget is $3,000.

Be open to trying new things, but at least have some parameters. I knew I would never wear a satin gown. I don’t like them, they don’t fit my venue, they’re heavy, they’re just not my thing. I wanted an a line or a ballgown, but I told my consultant to bring me some surprises. I ended up with an a line, but I tried on a mermaid along the way too.

Post # 14
1681 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Also, try shopping alone. I went by myself once. I wish I had gone alone EVERY time. 

Don’t let anyone pick your dress for you. (Even subconsciously) Not your mom, not your consultant, not your family… YOU should pick the dress. They’ll cry, they’ll swoon, but ultimately they’re reactions aren’t what matters. It’s about your reaction and how YOU feel.

This is just my personal opinion, but aim for something timeless. You know those horrible 80s shoulder poofs that everyone jokes about now? That’s what I see everytime I see a ruffled bottom mermaid. *cringe*

 Tell the consultant that your budget is $500 less than it is (or more depending on how high end you are shopping). They always pulled dresses that inched over my limit or were right at it. Of course, they never included alteration fees either.



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