post your crazy invitation/no invitation dramas!

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
Member
3706 posts
Sugar bee

@helpabeeoutplease:  My uncle and his wife were invited to my sister’s wedding, and didn’t even bother to RSVP (over 250 people who did). Our guess is that they were livid, that they’re kids weren’t invited (strictly 21+ and they have a nanny). No card, not even a congratulatory e-mail; it’s like it never happened. Because of that, and the fact that my venue fits about 1/2 the guests that my sister’s did, the 2 of them are not even invited to mine. They don’t rank in the top 112 people, in my life, or that of my fiance.

The Save-the-Dates went out in the middle of October, for our wedding. It must have taken them 2 months, to figure out they didn’t getting one.  All of a sudden, on 12/21, I got a Facebook request, from the Aunt. She didn’t ask my sister – she may not even know her last name, and the other 3 niece/nephews aren’t her F/B friends. In fact, in the 15 or so years that my family has had the internet, she had never contacted any of the four of us, for anything; we don’t know even her e-mail address. Hmmm…transparent fishing for an invite?

The day after Xmas, my parents got a card from my uncle – the 1st one in 10 years. He had the kids write a few lines and he wrote a paragraph on it. (Didn’t mention/include my sister or myself, BTW). After being mad over the F/B thing, we mom got such a laugh over the card. It’s a total waste of their time. Yes, we know they exist, but nope, you didn’t make the list.

Now we’re waiting for the other shoe to fall – they’ll complain to my grandmother and try to get her involved. They can save their breath…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 4
Member
2398 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@helpabeeoutplease:  Have to blame FI for this one.  We ran into a friend of his from college at the airport and he happened to be on our flight (this was a crazy coincidence because it was connecting for him, he doesn’t live in our city).  They weren’t very close so he wasn’t invited to the wedding.  They were catching up so I offered to switch seats with his friend so they could sit together and chat.  After we landed FI was talking with him about meeting up with another friend from college to drop off her invite to the wedding, she’d moved so it was returned undelivered.  So in my head, ok, not the best idea to talk about wedding invites to this guy that isn’t invited.  Then FI says “we’re really tight on space and budget so we couldn’t invite everyone, but if we get a lot of declines you can come if you want.”  So my FI B-listed this guy, openly, in the middle of baggage claim.  Awkward.  But I realized something valuable, which is that men for the most part are completely oblivious to these sort of things – the guy getting B-listed looked totally happy to be offered a backup non-vitation.  Sigh 🙂

Post # 5
Hostess
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’ve had an online friend who everytime I post anything on facebook [non wedding related.. like just saying.. Hey Merry Christmas! Or something else random]… they comment “still waiting on a wedding invite…”

I’ve told them multiple times that we are on a pretty strict budget and our venue is at capacity already. But he continues to comment over and over again.

Pretty sure he’s doing it to annoy me, but still.

Post # 6
Member
6960 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

My FI is one of those guys who doesn’t even know the names of all his family. We are having a big family wedding so we asked his sister and mom to put together a list. We got to their house for Christmas and his sister mentions like a dozen people who aren’t family but like friends of their cousins. FI says he doesn’t even know them and sister says “Well I do and I already told them they’re invited”. Ha. That’s going to be an awkward conversation for her because no, they aren’t invited. Then she tells us her mom is invited her coworkers. Mom has been retired for over a decade! But when we talked to his mom she said sister was kind if pressuring her for more names, like we needed to fill seats or something. So weird. 

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