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Happy Thanksgiving to everyone.
I live in Canada, so I don't exactly have a Thanksgiving rant, but I do feel your pain.
My boyfriend keeps buying expensive toys too, and he's even planned a guys trip away in February, which makes me feel like he's not as serious about getting engaged as I previously thought.
I also have finished all of his Christmas shopping and paid close attention to all the things he has been hinting for. Last night he says "I still have no idea what you want". HA! Ridiculous.
I'm definitely feeling some bitterness this week.
I truly hope that your engagement wishes come true soon. Who knows, maybe he did say something to your dad about it, inbetween discussing electronics and just wanted to keep it a secret.
Oh, and I totally get your feelings about the family bringing up the issue. Mine have stopped mentioning it, but at the same times say things to my SO and I like "you know, when I was your age I was already married". The last time those words were uttered I replied snarkily with "I'll probably be old and grey when it's my turn". SO gave me the look of death. LOL
I read a quote in a magazine the other day, but I can't remember it word-by-word. The guy said something like "Don't expect a ring each big holiday or special occasion. Guys feel pressured already so when it comes to these, they freak out big time."
My Thanksgiving dinner itself wasn't too bad. Just me, dad, and dad's SO, and my dad is probably the LAST person I'd ever expect pressure from. He's not really "into" marriage (he's had 3 failed ones) so it didn't come up at all.
BF only made me sad b/c he didn't really seem to care that I wasn't with him. He was more upset that all the members of "his" generation didn't show up to the big family dinner; they were all with their spouses/SOs. Some of them used to leave early/show up late, but this year they all bagged it completely. BF was pretty sad thinking that this is going to be the new trend and the big family parties are ending. I pointed out that, someday, we'll have to split holidays. His responce? "Well, I'll always go to all of my parties. I don't like it when people show up late or leave early, I'll always be there for all of it. And then I can go to your family things afterward. I mean, we live together, we see each other all the time." ...... :|
@MissPumpkinPie: I think we've read the same magazine, 'cause I know I've read that before somewhere! :)
I definitely didn't expect to be given a ring yesterday, in fact NO holiday has ever been a time that I have strongly expected a proposal in general (my SO has never come off to me as being a holiday-proposal-guy). My problem is that he keeps lying to me and our friends saying that he wants to ask me to marry him but he doesn't "have the money", but he obviously has the money he just doesn't want to save it for a ring. How much longer does he expect me to just wait around while he dangles a proposal in front of my face? I don't care if it's holiday, or my birthday, or just a Sunday while we are laying around in our pajamas, but he better freakin propose before he buys this new tv or buys any more sh*t for his truck!
@UsagiTsukino: that's a bummer :( He doesn't seem to quite get it. Are your two families pretty far apart? If you guys were all closer at least you would have the possibility of a joint thanksgiving in the future when you got married
@MisfitPrincess: okay... I SOOOOO understand the "shit for the truck" thing... My SO has been "fixing" up his car for the last two years. He just bought new wheels 5 months ago and are now getting custom wheels made. :/ boys and their toys. He also was looking at all the "good deals" online last night as well. Ugh.
I know the proposal isn't happening for a bit, next month- supposedly. But the spending money thing is grating on me. We had a discussion about it a couple days ago... and I know he's not going into debt but grrrrrr... it's irritating.
@MisfitPrincess: It was in Glamour. I know I'm totally off on what he said, but it's basically the same thing.
@MisfitPrincess: Yeah, I think law school has stalled some of this a bit; he's still in "college mode", where you stay with your folks during all of winter and summer break.
My dad and his parents only live about 20 mins apart, its even a really easy drive between the two. Which is why I hop between them for Christmas, usually. My mom, on the other hand, lives about as far away as one possibly could while still being in the same state, so seeing her is a bit more of a trip. I have to block out at least 3 consecutive days for a visit, which is utterly impossible for a law student to do, so BF hasn't gone with me since she moved there.
grandfather.....just looked down at my hand and sighed, and then walked away.
im sorry bUt i gotta admit to laughing a bit at this part
My Thanksgiving rant is much less frustrating and more embarrassing. FI's grandma asked me if we use "protection." Ummm awkward much?
Wow this sounds really frustrating! I would have felt the same way. At the same time, even if your boyfriend and your dad were having a conversation about a potential proposal, he might not have disclosed that information to you! So don't give up hope!
My Thanksgiving was actually pretty good! My boyfriend spent the holiday with me and my family who flew in from out of town. We took a tour of some old mansions and my stepmom was asking how much it would cost to rent one for a wedding. It has me excited that they will be chipping in when my boyfriend does finally propose. :)
@eloping: don't worry, I thought it was a little funny too, in an 'FML' sort of way :)
@CarolinaCola: OMG!! That is sooooooo embarrassing! What was she thinking?? I don't feel quite as bad about my day anymore, lol!
@shirasagi: you're right, I really have no idea, so I can keep a little hope in the back of my head. SO did tell me today that when they were talking my dad said he wants to get my mom a new tv for Christmas, and wants him to go along with him to lend his expertise. I should tell my dad to have a talk with SO and swing him by a jewelry store while they are out, hehe :D
My FI's parents came over to my parents house for a joint thanksgiving..it was weird for me. Im not a huge fan of them anyway.
After dinner, his mom kept bringing up displaying her pictures at our wedding which I already told her that I DID NOT want to do. Finally, I excused myself to go to the bathroom and just didnt come back to the table because I couldnt handle it anymore.
btw, as we dont have thanksgiving down here my thursday rant is my $1250 dentist bill - what i could have done with that money elsewhere :(
only good thing that came from it was i was ordered to eat icecream for dinner :)
@MisfitPrincess: I know right! I guess she asked because FI's mom said that she wants grandkids and I told her not yet, so grandma took it upon herself to be sure we're not currently working on making children. Haha. It was SO SO SO embarrassing!
I had a terrible Thanksgiving and I'm left with a lot of unanswered questions.. My sister brought over her new boyfriend and all they did was talk about the funeral of her dad this Saturday and how she was getting this and that but my brother was to get nothing (even though they have the same father). He sat there and put up with it but my family was annoyed and it got worse when she demanded our mother or grandmother go out on black Friday to buy him funeral clothes! (My mom is very ill and my grandmother is too old and nervous for the crowds!) I suggested he get a black button down shirt, black pants and black shoes (s he can rewear it for the wedding) and my sister boyfriend started screaming at me across the room while we were talking and eating! He said this is not all about my wedding and the funeral was more important... I calmy said our family is broke we are broke and my brother who is a groomsmen is broke... he can wear these clothes again from the funeral to the wedding if he gets the right type. This was just to save my brother and mom some money! My sisters boyfriend starts yelling again telling me to shut the hell up and I left the room just letting my BROTHER know he needed to pick out his outfit by the end of December anyway because I planned to hide in my other sisters bedroom until the dinner was over. He started screamning at my sister about me and they ended up leaving and taking my brother with them so I never got to talk to my sister (my MOH) about her dress and I barely got to talk to my brother with all the creaming about his outfit... this was my only chance to see them until March and I got screamed at for saying 2 things to him about the wedding in a conversation him and I were having that should have involved no one else. So they left my mom had a nervous breakdown my grandmother and mom were crying and the rest of the day was awkward. Next year were going to my FI's families for dinner. I just wanted to see all my siblings and family in one place because this won't be happening too many more times with health issues and such. I am still pretty sad but we had an awesome black Friday!
@HappilyEverAfter54: Oh my! How bizarre and terrible! I don't think I like your sister's boyfriend. I'm sorry if you do other than this incident, but he sounds like a complete ass. I mean, what kind of NEW boyfriend comes to his girlfriend's family's Thanksgiving gathering and starts screaming at her sister? Umm, a psycho?? I'm so sorry you had to go through that!!
@CarolinaCola: Yeah I didn't like him before this... but this was the 1st time we met in person. I tried to get along with him on facebook but he hit my sister and started talking about how young and immature he is to his friends so I said he needed to act his age too and not talk about her like that. (He's 37 she's 21) He got upset at me for speaking my mind I guess and deleted me from his friends list... When we got to my moms for Thanksgiving dinner he was nice and begged me for a cigarette and I was trying to keep the peace so we all talked we sat outside and talked about the funeral because they seem to be obsessed with it and everything was fine at first. Once we had dinner and he started yelling at me I was done... he isn't invited to my wedding and now I doubt my sister (my MOH) will come either so now I'm out a person and lost and confused but I know that jerk will not ruin my FI and I's big day- we've worked too hard for this.
@HappilyEverAfter54: Wow girlie, that sounds terrible! I'm sorry that you had to spend your day that way.. This guy sounds like a huge douchebag, what a way to treat people who have invited you into their home! If I had been your family, I would've kicked him out of the house and told him never to show his face again. This guy is a controlling skeez and your sister needs to either put him in his place or dump him, and I would straight up tell her that she needs to do something about the situation. There's no sense in beating around the bush and waiting until you get closer to your wedding to get the answers to the questions that you have now. Just tell her, "Look, your boyfriend is a d*ck and I won't have him anywhere near my wedding. Now I need to know are you going to be a big girl and handle it and be there for me and be my MOH? Or do I need to go ahead and find a replacement? I love you, but I'm not going to put up with this sh*t like you do". I'm pretty sure your sister could do better than this psycho that is almost 20 years older than her, that sounds like he's a sneeze away from going Manson on your family and sounds like he's more interested in your sister's inheritence than anything else. I hope that you get some answers and some closure hon, and most of all I pray for your sister's safety.
ten of my friends have gotten engaged since july...all of them have been dating for less time than us...ugh. and to make matters worse, SO's cousin asked him right before thanksgiving if "we were still together"...SERIOUSLY?!!! it's been almost 4 years already. i know i'm young, but come on. i've definitely been bit by the jealousy bug this fall...
@HappilyEverAfter54: I think your sister was still really upset about the passing of her father, to not say anyting to her BF. Maybe he thought he was sticking up for her, except for he was way out of line in how he behaved. Sounds like your sister just wasn't really in the mood to talk wedding stuff and is grieveing. I would touch base with her this week, somewhere away from her BF and make sure she is doing ok. Sorry the ruined T-day like that.
While shopping with my mom on Saturday she said she bets my cousin who is my age and her bf of a year will be engaged by Christmas. I was like do not say that it annoys me to hear it come from you. She was like you got a ring first though (referring to my promise ring) but I don't think she understands it's not the same. No offense but I will flip out if they get engaged first.... I know everyone's relationship is different but still. =/
I'll join though I already posted my own rant post.
I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOo frustrated!!!
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I hope all you bees made it through your Thanksgiving holiday without wanting to pull your hair out, but in case anyone had a less-than-great time yesterday, join me in a collective rant!
I hate to be the first to start this off, but I am sooooo frustrated I just have to get it off my chest. So, as I mentioned in the earlier Thanksgiving thread, I was all ready to see the fam and I wasn't nervous at all to hear them ask SO and i about engagement like they always do. I was actually LOOKING FORWARD to them asking and putting a little pressure on SO. But my worst fears came true: No one asked anything. My grandfather who ALWAYS asks us when the wedding is gave me a hug, then just looked down at my hand and sighed, and then walked away. My relatives have given up. Meanwhile, my cousin was there with her new fiancé (whom she's been dating for less than a year) and everyone was ooohing and ahhing over her ring.
Adding salt to the wound was SO, who LITERALLY spent the whole day talking about how he needed to contact so-and-so and see what kind of price he can get on some big mud tires for his truck, and all these great deals that he's seen for LCD tvs this week. He went outside and talked with my dad for a while, just the two of them, and I got really excited! But later he brought up their conversation and when I asked what they talked about his answer was "tvs and stuff".
Even when we got home he couldn't stop shopping on his computer and looking at the tvs and the xboxs, and telling me about all the 'awesome prices'
I was soooooo pissed off last night. For someone who supposedly wants to ask me to marry him soooooo badly, saving for a ring doesn't seem to be a huge priority for him. I seriously wish I could open his head and see what he's thinking. I mean, I thought we had a really good discussion about the whole money/engagement/ring thing a few weeks ago, and for like a week afterward he acted like it was really important to him. We pointed out some rings to one another that we liked in some brochures and he even did some Internet ring browsing (it was for all of like 5 minutes, but even so it was exciting to see him looking). Now he's right back to where he was before and it's back to driving me crazy. Am I going to have to start saving up for my own d*mn ring??? Wtf is wrong with my boyfriend!?
AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGH!!!!
Anyway, sooooooooooo how was everyone else's Thanksgiving??