Postcard Wedding Invitations?

posted 3 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@Daizy914:  It’s the actual invitation, not a STD? Weird. I’d be concerned about privacy. Also- how did they even get all the information on just one card?

I got an invitation yesterday to a wedding that has 90% out of town guests. I know from speaking to the couple that they have arranged a block rate at two different hotels but there is NO information on the invitation and no website listed anywhere. Odd. They also have a registry with only 6 presents under $50 (but lots and lots that are $150+) and a card suggesting we buy them airline gift cards instead, but that’s a whole other can of worms. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@Daizy914:  Was it pointing you to a website to RSVP there? I think they are kind of ingenius but I’m not sure how I’d pull it off and also set the tone I’m looking for.

I love stationary so postcard invites probably aren’t for me.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Daizy914:  We are doing them.  It was a compromise, my FI really wanted to just email invite everyone.  I said no, his mom backed me.  We are doing an email save the date.  

It’s also a cost thing.  It’s $1 for a standard envelope within Canada, nearly $2 to ship it internationally.  At 168 people on the guest list its over 100 invites.  For that reason we’re doing a one card invite, no embellishments, no reply card (online reply through our website.)  I’m a big believer that you can’t send and RSVP card without postage paid.  So that was going to be $4 minimum for each overseas invite (which is half our guest list).  Not to mention the cost of the invitations themselves, return address labels, etc.  It just wasn’t where we wanted to spend our money.  

So, we’re ordering lovely, printed one page invites, they match the wedding website, they’re formal wording, and we’re purchasing matching return address labels.  I’ll address the invites when they get here and we’re hand delivering as many as possible (it means our overseas guests are getting them very early, since we’ll be there later this year.)  

The save the date email is a video.  And it will link everyone to our wedding website.  So they’ll have seen the website prior to the invite.  Once the invites are out we’ll open up our RSVP page (currently hidden).  

I worked out the postage today, erring on the side that there will be people we can’t hand deliver to, even at home.  Our postage costs are under $200, for invites and thank yous (the thank you cards are being ordered as well, to match.  We’ll print small photos to include inside with our note.) The entire cost of invitations, wedding thank yous, shower thank you cards, 3 different set of return address labels (old names, new names, and my personal ones for my shower thank yous) is all less than $250.  Done and Done. 

Edited to Add:  The invite will still have a corresponding envelope.  The address and return labels will be addressed as normal.  It’s just a one page invite (info on the front, damask print on the back) like a post card.  The very last line of text is our wedding website… after the RSVP request. 

Post # 7
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228 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Backyard

What if the wedding is super duper casual. Seems like it would set the right tone to me.

 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Daizy914:  Ya, that’s weird.  (I think you were replying while I was editing).  I wouldn’t want my phone number out there.  I also don’t like the lack of privacy.  And everywhere I’ve checked out includes the envelopes when you order! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

@Daizy914:  No offense here.  Just pointing out the other side of the coin.  

Invites just aren’t a priority.  Everyone spends their money differently.  Everyone has different things that matter.  It’s cool.

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Daizy914:  I would simply infer that it’s quite an informal wedding, and would wear loafers and a sport coat.  You’re right that the invitation sets the tone, and this tone is that the wedding is casual, and relaxed.

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Daizy914: well, just call the hostess, whether it’s the bride, or mob, and ask “what do you suppose the other fellows will be wearing?” I would ask about guys, because our levels of formality seem easier to describe. But maybe that’s because I’m a guy, lol.

Anyway, just ask.  So maybe they just don’t view invitations this way – that happens since couples now do a lot of these things on their own, whereas, in years past, people sought more input from parents, who would teach them these conventions.  But, just because they don’t necessarily realize that the invitation has such a role in their event, doesn’t mean they are intentionally slighting anyone.  The same Etiquette that dictathat’s our invitations should provide certain information to the guest, dictates that you honour their invitation, and event, in the way they would hope.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

@Daizy914:  Yeah that is somewhat odd with out all the info being readable for everyone. Before I’d do that I’d do e-mail invitations (and then you can still send grandma & the 5 other folks that don’t do e-mail the postcard in an envelope).
I prefer the route @sostobe:  is going with putting them in an envelope. 

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