Posting birth announcement on FB before telling close family?

posted 3 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Is posting a birth announcement on FB before telling close family a faux pas?
    Yes- you should notify immediate family first : (115 votes)
    82 %
    No- new moms get a free pass on everything : (25 votes)
    18 %
  • Post # 2
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    Sugar bee

    That is bizarre. I am all for posting happy news on Facebook, but definitely not before you have told immediate family! So weird!!

    Post # 3
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s a faux pas, but I also think you shouldn’t get upset about it. In the end it’s her birth and her decision how to announce it.

    I’m wondering if her husband posted it, because I was in no mood to do anything for 12 (and more) hours after my C-sections, other than sleep and look after baby. DH looked after all the announcements. (Though this was pre-facebook).

    Post # 4
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think its a bit bad to post it ebfore telling family, and I wouldn’t go that route, but like assiemum1248 said…it’s her decision on how she wants to announce it, and I can’t imagine doing it myself after giving birth, so I kind of think maybe her husband did it for her.

    Post # 6
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    HeartsandSparkles:  I’ll be honest, even though I said it is their decision, if my brother came back to me and finally told me, I’d probably have a response locked and loaded for him. The old, “I’m really disappointed I had to find out from Facebook about my nephew/neice” would be appropriate. I would approach it from a place of disappointment and hurt rather than anger or displeasure.

    Post # 7
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    FB is not the new normal. A FB announcement does not replace telling your family and close friends important news. However, get over what she and her husband did and what your brothers parents did. No one reached out to you all and said mom & baby are fine. Did you call? Then, no one picked up the phone either. Don’t put this all on the woman who just gave birth.

    Post # 8
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

     

    megz06:  that response would make me mad, who are you brother and SIL to be dissappointed in my action? Get over yourselves?! This age of needing to know things first is crap. 

    OP, when they finally tell you, personally, just say “great, I saw the pics you poated on FB and he/she is gorgeous!” 

    Post # 9
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    CurlyCue:  To each their own 🙂

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I’d say it’s THEIR baby and the situation is not about you so how about you cut her a break and quit making their happy time about you and your displeasure over how they chose to announce? 

    Post # 11
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    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    HeartsandSparkles:  I do not have children yet, but I couldn’t imagine not sending out a text to all immediate family members when that time comes. i also would be really surprised if my brother and sil didn’t call or text me on the day they knew I was having a csextion to see how I was doing… Phones work both ways in my opinion. If they don’t have that kind of relationship then I can maybe see how it slipped her mind. 

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    HeartsandSparkles:  girl, stop.

    you said, “I told close family and friends about our engagement before I posted it on facebook- how is this different?”

    she just gave birth.

    it’s different.

    you’re sitting there admiring your sparkler while fully dressed and fully rested. she just gave birth and she’s under meds, i’m sure. sometimes facebook is the fastest way to get out info. just about EVERYONE has facebook or someone who knows someone has it. so just like you were able to sit there and say “hey FI, your sister gave birth”, i’m sure that’s what they expected you to do. i’m sure the new dad was busy tending to his wife and new baby.

    so please. stop. you knew when she was having the baby therefore, YOU could have been more proactive and reached out to them.

    i told my mom, dad, half-brother, half-sister, and close friends about my pregnancy. my aunts and uncles found out through facebook and so did a step brother. they were happy for me nonetheless because the pregnancy matters, not how they received the info.

    this new sense of entitlement is just… exhausting.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    megz06:  I’m with you on this one. I found out that we would be getting a new neice or nephew on FB ( the couple never told us or gave us a call)

    It wasn’t my side of the family so I didn’t say anything to them ( i guess end of the day it isn’t a big deal , but glad to know where I stand lol)  but if it was one of MY siblings who did that I would have been like “WTF , I get to find out along with your 500 fb friends???

    It was so rude!

    HeartsandSparkles:  I would be pretty peeved, but what are you gonna do lol. Its not worth bringing up, just enjoy the baby

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    megz06:  i’m sorry but that’s stupid. really in the heat of the excitement and anxiety surrounding the event, it’s not like a wedding. there is no time to reason through and pontificate a great and grandeous announcment. the baby is priority #1, not brother, sister, aunt or uncle. PERIOD.

    Post # 15
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    HeartsandSparkles:  I would be annoyed that I also had to find out via FB. Where are his parents? No one called to update you?

    Honestly, I totally understand the annoyance, but give the lady a break. She just had a c-section and a potentially sick baby. I would reach out to her. Whats worse – thinking she didnt reach out to you or the fact that your FI hasnt called his sister to check in on her after major surgery/ the baby with potential issues? Maybe she forgot FI didnt have a FB and assumed he would hear it that way. I would be upset if it was hours after my c-section and my sibling didn’t even call to check in.

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