Post # 1
My fiance and I are really trying to avoid having babies at our wedding (crying/distractions), as we know a LOT of people with babies…it’s nothing personal about the babies, more about the parents that won’t get up and leave when their child is crying during the ceremony. On our invitations we did the whole “We have reserved ___ Seats for you” and also had a message on our website about it, and we are STILL getting people saying they are bringing their babies.
I know it’s poor etiquette, but what would you think if you saw someones status (very politely worded) about having no kids at a wedding….I know its a very controversial subject, but I don’t know how else to get it out there bluntly!
And yes, I understand the whole breastfeeding issue as well, but most of them are in the 6-12 months range.
Post # 3
I think it’s probably better to address each person personally than to try to carpet bomb the issue on facebook. It might leave some people really embarressed and not wanting to come at all. Like let’s say a single friend saw the status and said ‘ohhh are you talking about Y? haha!’ then Y may be so annoyed at feeling targeted she might not even show. Just my two cents.
Post # 4
I don’t think Facebook status messages are the appropriate way to get your point across, it just comes off as passive aggressive.
Post # 5
To me that’s a bit much. Not everyone checks their facebook all the time and the status could easily be missed. I’d probably roll my eyes if I saw that on someone’s facebook page. You should have just clearly worded it on the invitation.
Post # 6
No. Please don’t do this… I would be totally put off by this.
I think if people are RSVPing with their children you should just call them individually and let them know that unfortunately you won’t be able to accomodate their children.
Have you considered looking into babysitting services so that your friends and family can still come?
Post # 7
@TinyTina: I love the idea of babysitters, while I don’t personally really care about screaming children at my wedding I’ve been a babysitter at a lot of my family members weddings and it went soo smoothly. Just make sure you find someone with a ton of game plans to keep everyone entertained =D
Post # 8
Yes, Bees, you’re right…I won’t do it..I’ve been thinking about it for a week! I will just let it go…My issue is the people who DON’T RSVP they are bringing their children. We were at a “no kids” wedding last week with the same group that will be at ours, and there must’ve been 20 kids. Just grin and bare it I guess!!
Post # 9
I agree with murmur. It might lead to some awkwardness between your guests. I would just talk to the guests personally. One thing you might look into would be arranging for childcare during your ceremony and allowing the children to come to the reception or even childcare for both so they can still be close to their children but not have them interfering with all the hard work you’ve put into this day.
One thing to keep in mind is that it is your day and although some things may not be avoidable – weather etc, this is one thing you can and have the right to control. As long as you approach the subject carefully with your guests I’m sure they will understand.