Post # 1
This is a mere vent based on my annoyance with a girl with whom I work. Basically, she and I work in a classroom together, and she has become obsessed with her wedding to the point of working on wedding details when we should be teaching. It’s insane. I’m all for excitement over wedding planning, but not when it distracts you from doing your job.
Anyway, I got on facebook today, and noticed that she had posted a picture of her wedding invitation suite, exclaiming how much she loves her wedding invitations, etc. Is it me, or is this incredibly gauche? Posting your wedding invitation on social media? She has around 3,000 friends on facebook, and I know not everyone is invited. Not to mention, her profile picture is her save the date. I’m invited to her wedding, but I feel like if I were someone who was not invited, and maybe had hoped to get invited, then I would be extremely offended.
Just wanted to get others’ opinions. Thanks, ladies, and I hope all of you have a lovely weekend!
Post # 2
bellenola: I’m pretty sure you already know what others’ opinions are going to be. Consider yourself validated.
It’s extremely inappropriate to post the invitation and remind those who were not invited that they won’t be seeing one in person.
Post # 3
julies1949: I figured that it was inappropriate, or knew. I asked because a couple of other girls at work didn’t see to think it was bad etiquette, and I started to wonder if I was just reacting out of annoyance with her. For some reason, people seem to think that all rules fly out the window when it comes to social media. Not that I am a strict rule follower, but it’s about respecting others.
Post # 4
Definitely inappropriate and bad etiquette. I feel bad for the others not invited.
Maybe since you work so closely with her that you can express your concern. Tell her you saw it on there and that maybe she might not want to have that on there as it might end up hurting others feelings that are not invited and makes her look insensitive.
Post # 5
- Wedding: An amazing castle. August 2015
bellenola: not only is it inappropriate, in my opinion I think it’s really tacky as is having the save the date as her profile picture. I know people can get overly excited about getting married but to shove it in everyone’s face all the time is very self absorbed
Post # 6
sharksgrl99: I actually did say something to her about it. Only because a girl had commented under the pictures of her invitation saying, “I sure hope I get one!” I asked her if that particular girl was invited, and she laughed and told me no. I then told her that it might be a good idea to take it down because she may offend people. She agreed, but I’m not sure if she will do it or not…
Post # 7
Honestly, yes, it’s obviously rude. But at the same time. I don’t care if I see someone has done that. I understand being excited about your wedding and gorgeous invitations, and I also understand that guest lists end up being dictated more by budget than anything else so…whatever. I don’t take it personally if I’m not invited to a wedding. And honestly, people are obviously aware there’s a wedding, obviously aware that there’s invitations, and if they’re not invited, they’re going to be aware they’re not invited.
Post # 8
It’s Facebook… Who cares? I see this all the time and have never thought “omg I can’t believe I wasn’t invited.” People are going to find out at some point that they are not invited so I think it’s silly to get upset about seeing the invite on Facebook.
I think everyone should stop taking Facebook so seriously.
Post # 9
I think that people on Facebook ought to wake up to the fact that the things they say and post don’t disappear into a black hole. There is an actual, you know, audience?
Post # 10
Not cool. Not cool at all lol
Post # 11
bellenola: Maybe all 3,000 FB friends will show up!! LOL !!!
Post # 12
I do agree that it’s gauche, but it’s nothing to get offended over, even if someone wasn’t invited.
Post # 13
- Wedding: April 2014 - Indian Springs Metro Park
Definitly not the smartest, or most considerate idea in the world, but their is the other potential problem of people seeing it and then showing up even if they never official got an invite. It has happened before…
Post # 14
sharksgrl99: I didn’t post anything except my wedding invite, and actually just a picture of the front, because I drew it myself… I also do not have thousands of facebook friends. I have minimal friends of facebook, so whatever. Bad Ettiquette maybe but I think we all slip up somewhere.
Post # 15
If she’s obsessed with wedding planning, I’d also be concerned she was a bee….reading posts LOL