- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Sorry to be bragging – I don’t like to, but I just really wanted to share (and will be asking for suggestions at the end!).
My FI is AMAZING. Just, really, seriously amazing.
After he proposed, I told him right away that I wanted the wedding to be about both of us, and that I wanted his participation for everything but the dress. And he was totally willing, though confused about why he couldn’t have input on the dress. Um… duh!!
Since then the only thing he’s backed out of has been the florals – completely unsurprising.
He’s been to every site visit with me, and even was willing to go to a Bridal show with me a few weeks or so after we got engaged. It was occuring at a site we wanted to visit, and he was totally fine with going despite all the craziness that would be happening and how recently engaged we were.
He has set aside time to work with me on the wedding, whether it be deciding the direction or just tossing ideas back and forth. FI even suggested rescheduling the book clubs we’re in, and then worked it out with the other club members, so we can focus better on the wedding prep, and I didn’t have to stress out about loosing two Saturdays a month to meet with vendors (as we both work full-time and live about 40 mins apart).
In order to save money in certain areas, so we can devote more to out big-ticket things (food, venue, photography), he has volunteered to help with the crafting projects for our Save The Dates, table numbers, and any other decor (non-floral) that we need to create, re-design, or re-paint.
FI’s more traditional in his tastes than I am, but he is willing to listen to my ideas and thoughts about some traditional things I don’t like (garter removal/toss and bouquet toss), and some out of the box things I would love to have (like having carrot cake, which he has said he’s willing to try, for me).
All in all, he’s just been amazing. And we still have 8/9 months to go!
So, Bees – I need your help here: he’s been so amazing, but I haven’t the vaguest idea what to get him for my present to him at our wedding. I would love to brainstorm together, and get any ideas that you have or are planning on getting for your SO/FI/DH’s present.
I would also love help with figuring out what “thank-you” gift to get his oldest younger sister (oldest of his 3 sisters who are all younger than he), who has volunteered (her DH) to make two personalized bean toss boards and bags matching our colors to have at the wedding.
And for my MoH, who, aside from being willing to help anytime she can, despite being a law student, has been driving me around with decor stuff since I did a massive number on my ankle, and is going to be helping with/covering the cost of the flowers as her wedding present (!). She loves jewelry, so I was thinking Kate Spades “partners in crime” bangle, but that seems almost a cop-out.
Can’t wait to hear from you Bees, regarding any of these topics, and any stories about SOs, FIs, and DHs who have also been, or were, massively involved in the planning process.
Love you all!