postpartum depression, did you go on to have more babies?

posted 3 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@MrsHoneyC:  I can’t answer your question since I have not given birth (I’m currently pregnant) but I just wanted to offer you support. I’m worried about post-partum depression as well, I feel like that is something I might be prone to. What you are feeling is pretty common, many women experience it but do not talk about it. Kudos for you for acknowledging it and dealing with it. My good friend’s sister had PPD with her first baby but did go on to have two more children. I think her PPD was much milder the second time and non-existent the third time. I’m not sure if she did not actually experience PPD at all after her first or simply knew to expect it and treated it early, though. Anyway, best of luck to you. You sound like a good mom to your son and even  people lucky enough to not experience PPD still find those early weeks and months very difficult! Hang in there.

Edit- your son is just beautiful!

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

@MrsHoneyC:  my mom had it with me, and she went on to have my brother. They did stop at 2 kids. she also had PPD in a time where it wasnt as spoken. The fact that she had it and that I have PMDD makes me more susceptible to it when I eventually have kids. 

But she did over come it, and if it makes you feel better she said she didn’t have it with my brother. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 1988

@MrsHoneyC:  I have no advice as I never experienced PPD nor do I know anyone who did.

Just wanted to offer my support and to tell you that the picture of you and Ryland actually brought tears to my eyes.

What an astonishingly beautiful picture!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I don’t know if my DH’s mom was diagnosed (obviously that was a different time), but she has spoken often of how difficult the first 5 weeks of motherhood were for her (never stopped crying, couldn’t bond with DH). I think it gradually got better from there, and she also had two more kids!

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

@MrsHoneyC:  No words of wisdom, but *BIG BIG HUGS*

Your son is so adorable! He looks like a little fairy in that first picture.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@MrsHoneyC:  If your interested in purchasing some reading material, anything by Karen Kleiman would be an excellent resource. 

It sounds like you are making excellent progress towards building that attachment relationship with your son. 

Having PPD with one child does not guarantee that you will have it with the next pregnancy although having depression once can increase your risk. However knowing ahead of time and having a strong support system can help reduce the severity of the symptoms.

I would also like to add that a lot of new moms have PPD and at times it can seem as though everyone else has it so easy. 

There are many ways to secure a bond with your son even though you may have missed out on those first weeks. 

I could dialogue with you about this topic indefinitely it is my specialty so feel free to PM or look to this site for additional info. http://postpartumstress.com/get-help/

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I had PPD with my daughter and i was overall just a angry depressed person all the time and I never really connected with DD until she was About 9 months old. We just had our son two weeks ago and I am SO happy to say that I have totally connected and bonded with him. I am much happier this time around and just more calm and happy in general. 

 

My PPD was so bad with my first that when I told my mom that I was pregnant again she cried because she was so nervous for me to go through sucha hard time again. 

 

It will get better, I promise! being a new mom is hard but eeeek! those are some cute pictures!!!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsHoneyC:  look at his face!!!!!!!!!

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

@MrsHoneyC:  I don’t know anything about ppd, but I just wanted to say I’m sorry you’re going through it. I also wanted to tell you your baby is gorgeous, and that is a very sweet pic of the two of you.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

He’s handsome and you look radiant in the picture. Having a baby is so difficult & requires a lot of a new mother/new parents. You are perfectly normal, I didn’t feel any overwhelming infactuation with mine either. I didn’t cry & declare how beautiful or lucky or any of that. DH cried. Lol. My girl is 17mos. & some days I still don’t feel like parenthood is a good fit for me. It is still very taboo to admit that you don’t want to be immersed in your offspring 24/7, but I don’t buy it & you shouldn’t either. Give yourself permission to be exhausted, overwhelmed, upset & just downright sad at not being able to feel like your old self for a while. The early days are so hard, there is a lot expected of you with very little return for all of your efforts. Sad feelings aren’t out of the norm at all & it’ll get better because you are being proactive and trying to make it better. As far as other children, I’m a one & done.

Feel free to PM me anytime, I will give you my IM id’s to if you ever want to chat, I know how alone it can be. I’m freakishly nocturnal, very chatty & I wouldn’t mind at all. 🙂

Hang in there!

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@MrsHoneyC:  hahaha! Love the last one! Reminds me of that tax commercial … “did you make a person this year?” Haha! You sure did 🙂

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

I had pretty bad post partum depression with my first daughter- feeling suicidal and eventually got on medication.  It very much interfered with bonding with my daughter. But I did have a second child and had no postpartum depression with that baby at all!  Feel free to PM me if you have more questions!

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