- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I am in need of some advice!!!! Big time!
My FH & I have been together for 5 years. We were engaged in July of this past year. Now…he works offshore and is gone 2 weeks and off 2 weeks. We have lived together for almost a year now and are in the process of looking/buying a house. As well as myself going back to school.
Of oourse I figured that he would be less enthusiastic about planning than I would….be has done NOTHING. & I do mean NOTHING. I have bought and paid for 1500 dollar dress picked out tuxes and dresses. Shoes and jewelry. Decor. All the neccessary items. Have a photographer and musician. His to do list *since July* has been this: 1) Ask about permission to use the land where we would like to have our ceremony and recpetion 2) Make sure his aunt (who is a baker) can make our cake. 3) Get his mothers address book so I can get all the necessary address.
We are getting married April the 27th…..We are two months down and I have hounded him over and over about this. With only empty promises and “yea that looks good” after he merely glances at the computer screen or whatever I have bought.
I can’t make invitations. I can’t put out an annoucement. I can’t order MAIN THINGS we need like tables and chairs and things we would need for an outdoor wedding. (like lights and things)
SO with him being offshore our phone conversations are limited *very limited* I spoke with him in all my excitement of finding an archway and lights that a friend is willing to let us borrow. Then I am hit with the “you realize we only have two months, I just think we should push it back”
My instict was to get mad but I didn’t. I simply explained to him that I had asked him several times and I couldn’t help that I needed the location to order things like invites. OF COURSE….he replied with well it would olnly half to be a few months. I replied that I didn’t want to postpone that we just needed to buckle down and get it done and that he *had* to help me because I couldn’t possibly do it all alone. Of course by this point our phone call was running out so he had to go only to follow me up with an email that said that he understood exactly where I was coming from but no one would show up for a wedding they didn’t have time to plan in there schedule and he knew he needed to make it a priority but at this time frame the only way we were going to get married that quickly would be on the courthouse steps.
If a match lit I think our house would burn down…I am so angry and so hurt. WHAT am I supposed to do. I have a fitting in less than a month and they won’t hold the dress past my date? He is being unreasonable because HE has failed to do his part that I have *BEGGED* him to do since we got engaged….
Im at a loss…someone please help me figure this out!