- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
I have a decision to make, and I am hoping to get some input. At the moment, I’m mostly leaning towards option (a) go to Philippines, take Honeymoon next year
Essentially, I am asking the Hive these Questions:
-Did you take your honeymoon later? Would you? Why or why not?
-What would you do in my situation?
Thank you for your opinions 🙂
My FFIL offered to pay for my FI and I to the Philippines on a 2-week family reunion, which will take place one month before the wedding. He said it would be a wedding gift. I’m not sure whether or not we would receive anything else if I decline this offer.
My FI is definitely going because (1) he has not been back to the Philippines since he left 10 years ago, and (2) he can take a lot of time off from his job fairly easily. (he could do both the Philippines trip & honeymoon right after the wedding)
I, on the other hand, am only allowed 10 Vacation Days per year. I already talked to my boss about it, and she won’t let me take any more days than that. So, my options are to (a) Take the trip to the Philippines, and go on the Honeymoon a year later, or (b) Go on Honeymoon right after wedding, and miss out on the trip, but possibly get some money instead to help pay for the wedding.
Pros of (a):
-The Experience of going to a foreign country (free) & seeing my Fi’s hometown.
-Having his parents & family members as guides, so I feel less stressed
-Meeting Fi’s relatives
-More time to focus on planning the wedding now, & planning honeymoon after it’s done.
-Can possibly save more money for the honeymoon
Cons of (a):
-No more Vacation days for the rest of the year
-Meaning, no break to prepare prior to the wedding, or afterwards
-Honeymoon potentially loses it’s “specialness” (perhaps?)
-FFIL may have more control over where we go & what we do while in the Philippines.
My FI is worried that I’m going to be disappointed when I go to the Philippines. I’ve been told a lot of different things about it, so I have an idea of what to expect. He said it’s up to me if I want to go to the Philippines, and he doesn’t mind if we postpone the honeymoon.
Some of the negative things I’ve heard: lack of toilet paper, bad smells, getting sick from food, ridiculously long drives, seeing the poverty would be depressing, etc.
Most people have focused on the negatives to warn me of what I’d be getting into. I’m trying to research it to be aware of what I’d be facing. Regardless, it would be a great experience getting to visit another culture, particularly that of my FI.