Post # 1
so my Fi and i realized we need to work through some problems before we get married. Since seeing that we decided that postponing the wedding would be best so we dont feel pressured to solve things is 45 days. I had my bridal shower and we have received gifts. What do I do with the gifts and how to I tell people? As longa s we can work through this we are still going to be married and hopefully by the end of the year.
Post # 3
I’m not sure what the formal etiquette is, but since you’re postponing and not cancelling I would hold on to the gifts (but probably not use them), write lovely thank you notes explaining the bad news, and then when things go well and you set a new date you’ve saved people the trouble of buying you presents all over again. If tragedy struck and you decided that getting married will never be in the cards, then you return the gifts to the sender. Someone else may have a more informed answer, but that would by my gut reaction.
Post # 4
I agree – don’t use the wedding gifts.
A friend postponned her wedding. She send everyone an email explaining that the wedding was postponned and she and her FI needed to work on some things. If people had questions, they were to direct their questions to her Mom or her MOH. I assume the groom sent a similar email to his guest list.
Good luck working things out with FI.
Post # 5
I would NOT tell people that you’re postponing to “work things out.” Honestly I feel like thats going to create more gossip and bad vibes than you need. I would send thank you notes with a super vague line like “Unfortunately circumstances require that we postpone our ceremony to a later date. We expect to reschedule for later this year, and we’ll send out invitations as soon as we have a date” or something like that.
Post # 6
I think CorgiTales is right. You don’t need every person on your guest list calling you to see what’s wrong, how they can help, offer armchair therapy. I think a nicely worded thank you with the vaguely worded note like Corgi offered would do the trick.
I hope you guys work things out. Lots of ((hugs))!!!
Post # 7
I would definitely NOT say you are postponing in order to work things out. This is going to cause gossip. Just say something like, “Unfortunately uncontrollable circumstances have caused us to postpone the wedding. Once we have a new date we will let you know.”
Post # 8
I agree with CorgiTales, be very vague about the postponement. And I wouldn’t use the gifts just in case.