Postponing a wedding to get venue?

posted 3 years ago in Venue
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

bananacar:  What does your FI say?  Is he okay waiting with you?  I think that is the most important question.  Waiting to 2016 isn’t a problem, it can help you save for that perfect venue.  But that means waiting until 2016 to get married, which I think your FI needs to be on board with to. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

bananacar:  It totally depends on your situation.  We got engaged in 2011 but we didn’t get married until the end of 2013.  We wanted a specific venue and we needed to give some of our overseas guests time to save money to travel for our wedding.  I was happy with a two year engagement.  It also gave us extra time to save money to pay for the wedding ourselves.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee

Ask to be put on a waiting list, for cancellations. (Tell them you need to have a minimum notice of 3 months, or whatever you prefer). My cousin did that and moved-up her date by six months. 2 years isn’t unusual, for wedding planning. My daughter ran into the same issue and ended up booking the Sunday night of Memorial Day weekend and saved abot 25% per person(only 10% of those invited declined).

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

bananacar:  Hmm tricky one! We had to compromise on the date we wanted to get the venue we loved but not by that much! I don’t think I would have waited that long but our engagement is already 18 months so I would have been over it if i’d had to wait another 12 months!

Have you exhausted all other options in your area? If there was absolutely no other decent alternative then i’d consider waiting, but if there were other nice venues I wouldn’t wait that long.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

what about getting married on a friday or sunday?

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

bananacar:  We postponed to get our dream venue. Less stress, less mess and no compromises. Wins all around.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee

Yeah like the other poster said what about an alternative day like a thursday or friday?  I would totaly do a thursday if I had to, might even save more money doign that!  And the people who realt want to be there wil be there no matter what!

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

bananacar:  The only thing I would say though is that if you’re seeing it as ‘settling’ then maybe you should just wait! You want to be really happy with your venue (although I do think once you decorate the space and have all your loved ones there with you in the moment it can change it from like to love!)

Have you asked if any of the dates at your dream venue are just on hold and not actually booked? If any of them are being held temporarily for someone you can ask them to give the couple holding it a nudge, we had a bunch of venues on hold while we were deciding and a few of the ones we passed on ended up having other people waiting for us to make a decision! Worth a shot!

Post # 12
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I wouldn’t hold off on my marriage in order to have a specific venue. Actually being married to Mr. LK was the most important thing to me, and I would have done it at the county landfill if I needed to.

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I feel confident that if you already found the venue you want, then waiting is not a big deal.  When I got engaged in October, I realized I did not want a winter wedding, which essentially meant we had no choice by to marry in May of 2015 at the earliest.  At the time, I felt like “it’s so far away” but here I am in April of 2014 and time has FLOWN!!!  2016 will be here before you know it.<br />The only negative of a long engagement is that your choices might change.  For example, this past fall I was set on one color scheme and now when I see it-NO WAY!  So that is something to keep in mind, more chances to change your mind.  

Congratulations and Good Luck!

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