- 5 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
Long and ranting pity party ahead.
I was planning a vow renewal for Sept 2012 on my 10yr anniversary. Backyard, very diy and vintage, just immediate family and aunts and uncles and close fiends, about 50 people. Then my mother passed away suddenly and my Grandfather lived with her, we wanted him to move in with us so we moved to a bigger house in the country, actually within walking distance from DH’s parents, it’s been great but alot of work! That was about a year ago and honestly things have been crazy trying to make a new home so the vow renewal was the last thing on my mind.
Now things are settled and its two weeks till my 10yr anniversary and DH and I have nothing planned, I even put my alfred angelo dress up for sale here since I lost weight and really what do I need it for? It’s not like we can run off spur of the moment and leave the kids with my in laws because I can’t just leave my 92 yr old Grandpa here alone, even with family checking on him I don’t feel comfortable. I know I frustrate him with my over-protectiveness and he teases me all the time about being worse than my Grandma with my ways but what if he fell or something! Anyway looks like this year is dinner and a movie… again lol
Last night DH said why dont we do it on our 11yr in 2013. I aksed him if he thought it was weird, renewing vows on the 11th instead of the 10th and he said “Of course not! Call it our 10 yr anniversary redemption!” lol
I then told him that my enthusiasm for planning a party for 50 or so poeple has diminished. First my Grandma passed 4 years ago and then my Mom, I took care of them both while they were sick and it was draining and heartbreaking, honestly I’m just not up to planning a vow renewal with all the projects we have with the new house and plus I have 4 kids. Our twins will be 13 in a few months and they are very active. It’s always something or somewhere between sports and friends, the other two 9 and 6 are less active. And then there is Grandpa, hes healthy and spry for his age but still time is short around here.
He then said why don’t we just elope! Again! We could do what we did the frist time. We rented an old victorian on spring street in Eureka springs and invited our 4 closest friends. it was lovely! We stayed for 2 nights and 3 days and shopped the art/antique district. It was great.
Enthusiasm reactivated! So I called the place where we were married only to find out she sold the victorian a few months ago. She owns several and with the economy something had to give. She has some others but they are not really wedding/renewal locations. She said the man totally renovated the old location and isn’t holding ceremonies anymore. UGH! I’m completly bummed! Once again enthusiasm has gone downhill.
I just wants somewhere private, with just me and Dh. I was thinking maybe Basin Park, its in the middle of the action in Eureka and is gorgeous and they have a very private back area for intamate weddings, but I would have really loved to recreate our first location, that would have been awesome! But since the old location is out we really could do anything! I don’t want to travel more than 4 hours away from home though (were in Tulsa ok) incase of something happens with the kids or Grandpa. But now i’m just confused and overwhelmed. DH just hugs me, kisses me on the head and says he doesn’t care where we reaffirm, he just wants to marry me again and celebrate. Seriously I lucked out with this man!
How is it possible to first feel like im out of choices to now being overwhelmed with them? lol We have not had a vaction since we were married, not even for an overnight stay. We went straight into work and college and taking care of my parents back then. Were really overdue for one! What would you guys do? Not only for this year on short notice but for our renewal given all the circumstances? I’m only 31 but sometimes I feel like I’m 50!