- 7 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
Um, I like to think that everytime some sort of ridiculous thing happens I wont be running along to WB to talk it out in an Emotional Post. I mean sometimes I feel silly about it. Today, I am actually overcome with anger, frustration, and actual fear that I will have to significantly change my life in regards to pretty much everything revolving around my family. Yeah, I think that warrents an Emotional post.
As my previous posts have noted…my eldest sister is completely mentally ill- she has threatened everyone in my immediate family, family friends, all for a bid to get money from my father- who I also have issues with, but for the most part am trying work towards a better relationship with. My sister M is paranoid (she accused me of conspiring with her roomates to ruin her life…I havent been on campus in what, 3 weeks?- I had one exam!- not to mention thats utterly insane). And she and I had an altercation and threats that lead me to abandoning my house during the dead of night to go to my SO’s. She also leaves me threatening/”Warning…her words” msgs on my phone, all of which I have saved, in conjuction with all the info from the previous interactions with her. As such, I have notified campus security that she needs to stay away from me, and have a file with the RCMP (our police up north).
Despite all this, I cant take any legal action….the best I could do was change the locks and keep a record of everything that shes doing. My father knows all this, and promised that while I lived at home to get on my feet before I move out, that she would be kept away from the house. Now M is amazing at being manipulative, though she is very very ill- she bounces from sweet and kind, to threatening and extremely violent at the blink of an eye. She is over right now as I am writing this, and earlier today, because I had no idea she was here, she knocked on my door and demanded to speak with me. My father is totally ok with this, and its more than obvious that sooner or later he will be giving a key back to her- the person who wished him to be dead, that has threatened him and has yes, taken over 100,000 dollars from him and is asking for even more.
This is the person my father wishes to have around the family…and I cant do it anymore. Im literally afraid of being in this house right now while she is here-my mother wont speak up, and as an adult, this isnt my home, but I live here- what the heck am I supposed to do, legally? My father has bascially sacrificed my security, my mother’s and his own to someone who has a history of violence because M has appeased him with lies, and nice words (my father is…not exactly the greatest person- he’s been abusive to my mother in the past and has anger issues still- what he likes most is someone appealing to his ego).
Im at the end of my rope…I feel like reason, logic and sanity have gone out the window and Im left here wondering what the hell Im going to do. It goes without saying that my father going against his word hurts me deeply, and that I almost like he’s chosing to give into M’s demands just to keep her from calling 100 times a day…and that thats more important that my family’s safety. Theres absolutely no reasoning with him either, because if you disagree with him, you are disrespecting him, and trust me, Im an opinionated person and have tried- been blunt, been honest. Nothing is getting through. I know this is totally a vent but its like- this is the insanity I got away from when I was living on my own- the best I can fathom is getting a really good job and moving out as soon as I can….but honestly I wont lie, its gonna be really hard, because I really need to save up by living at home right now.
Any legal recourse, or even some kind words would be appreciated. And to those with absolutely nutty families-I actually hope my story makes you feel better.