(Closed) Potential bridesmaid disappointment (long)

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Honestly, I would see how she approaches the whole buying-a-dress thing. If she seems reluctant to put down the money for the dress, then I would say that your fears might be justified. but if she buys her dress and gives all outward signs that she is still attending, then there’s not much you can do except try not to stress about it now. You don’t want to nag her constantly with “You’re still coming right? You’re still coming, right?” for the next 7 months.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@UpstateCait: Oh dear… yes, I am dealing with something like this.  Even last night my MOH said, “if she couldn’t pull through, she would have known, we’ve all been bridesmaids, we know the costs and dedication involved, if she knew it was too much, she should have said no.”

It begs the question, if you are asked to be a BM and you know you financially or physically cannot commit, is there a nice way to decline?  Bees, has this ever been done????

My BM issue lurks beneath the surface whenever we make plans.  As of now, she isn’t coming to the shower, probably not the bachelorette and i’d be shocked if she made the rehearsal.  Awesomeness.  But i’m not marrying her, I’m marrying the man of my dreams and she’s not stopping that!!! 🙂

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