(Closed) Potential Issue with Plus Ones

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m about to sound horrible but you don’t have to give her a plus one, I understand why you are and I think that’s great. Or , this is the horrible part, hope they’ll break up since your date is pretty far off.  🙂

Post # 4
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3943 posts
Honey bee

I wouldnt worry about it at this point. We all have a friend with a horrible significant other. There just isnt much you can do about it. You’ll be so busy on the day of your wedding that you wont even pay attention to him. And give your girl friend some credit, I am sure she wont let him cause a huge scene at your wedding. Don’t worry about it yet 🙂

Post # 6
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507 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@chronicwhimsy:  I have one of these down the line. We just got engaged less than a month ago and there’s a guest I can’t not invite due to familiy/friend politics and they’re bending alot already so I figure- fine. But dear lord this dude is a piece of work and he has used past weddings as a “him” show and a reunion time for him- not celebrating the union. I am already hoping something comes up to prevent him coming. I know its awful but that is just one thing I don’t want to deal with on the day of. Plus as much as people claim ” you’ll never notice…” if you have a <100 person wedding, you’re going to notice a shouting, coursing, as*. I’ll lean for you so you don’t have bad bride karma!!

Post # 8
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2782 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@chronicwhimsy:  I feel you, I really do. Mine is my sister’s BF, he is a worthless piece of sh*t. He doesn’t treat her well, plays mind games, and has a tendency to cause a scene when things aren’t about him. needless to say I have my fingers crossed that they break up before our invites have to go out. 

Our cutoff for +1s is living together, engaged or married. They aren’t living together, but were previously, and now are planning on trying to find a place together again. They breakup almost weekly, and my sister already said she won’t come to my wedding if he isn’t invited (was a completely unprovoked comment, only my FI knows that I really don’t want to include him). 

This is a friend you could get away with not offering a +1 for. Just say how much you really just want those that you know personally at your wedding and are close with. Otherwise, just suck it up and give her the +1, and maybe hope that if he causes a scene something good will come from it, like maybe your friend will realize what a tool this guy is and end things.

Post # 9
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53 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I completely understand!  I say just hope they break up, as bad as that sounds!  Your wedding is still a ways off so anything is possible.  For me it was my FI’s brother’s FI.  She was always extremely rude to me and hated me for no reason.  I had absolutely no way to not invite her to the wedding, especially since they were due to get married this month.  However, lucky for me (and him because she was truly a terrible person and treated him horribly) she called off the wedding a few months ago.  While I felt so sad for FBIL because he was very hurt and upset, it really was for the best.  He seems much happier now and I can stop trying to think of ways to not invite her to our wedding! Miracles do happen! 🙂

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