Post # 1
I am having an issue in that my half brother is disabled and he makes a very loud noise when hes upset…to the point where i cant actually hear over it.
I have asked my dad that if he gets upset if he can be taken out the room otherwise i wont be able to hear my fiance or myself think let alone take inthe moment on my wedding day.
My half brother is so disabled he wont know whats going on or miss anything if he is taken out the room in fact if he makes the noise its probably because he wants to be taken out the room
This is my second marriage and at my first wedding my half brother mother took my own son out the room simply for getting a little restless…
but she has said that she will not be coming if i am going to be like that and will withdraw her offer of providing a small buffet and wedding cake…which we didnt ask for and said that we didnt want because we are having a very small casual affair…but with 4 weeks to go this has left us with no money for an alterantive.
Am i being unreasonable? My dad agrees with my step mum. I want my dad at the wedding but im not sure he will be allowed to go if my step mum does not go.
Post # 3
wow, I don’t think you’re being unreasonable at all, I think she’s being really harsh. Have you reminded her of how she took your son out of the room for being restless? It’s not like you’re saying you don’t want your half brother there, just that if he is being upset then it would be best for him and everyone else if he has another space to go to. That way it will be an enjoyable day for everyone.
And I hate it when wedding gifts are conditional! If she has offered to provide a buffet and cake then she can’t take it back just because she’s throwing her toys out of the pram! that is so juvenile. I don’t have personal experience of this problem but I hope you can work something out. Your dad should still go to your wedding no matter what, have a talk with him about it and explain how much he means to you and how important it is that he is there. If he doesn’t go and later regrets it (which he will) it’s not like he gets another chance.
Post # 4
I don’t think you’re being unreasonable for asking he be taken out if he gets upset. But do try to approach this with a lot of tact and understanding.
Post # 5
i was very tactful when i spoke to my dad and he spoke to my step mum…my step family have turned on me altogether and are now saying that i think i can click my fingers and have everyone come running, and my dad is ignoring my messages. I have pointed out about my son being taken out last wedding, i am going to try and speak to my dad in person and mention about him possibly regretting this as you suggested. thankyou for your replies 🙂