(Closed) Potentially offensive invitation wording?

posted 7 years ago in Paper
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would go with number one.  Also, are you having a church wedding or a secular wedding?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Either or fine; just depends on you parents and FI’s parents and who wants (and deserves) the credit AND the responsibility of hosting.

As for “request honor of your presence”–it’s not so much you CAN’T say that at a secular wedding to my knowledge; you just can’t say “pleasure of your company” for a religious ceremony because you are not witnessing in the presence of God at his “pleasure”–it does not “pleasure” God for you to be in his church (or temple or whatever) and you’re not God’s “company”; you’re not on equal footing with God like his bridge partner or something. Sorry if I sound like a zealot–I’m not religious–just trying to convey where the logic comes from.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

i actually think #2 is more appropriate. another option: you could also leave the names off of it and do a “together with their parents, Isvogel and Mr. Isvogel, request the honor of your presence…”

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

For a church wedding use – honour.  My mom just caught me on this, LOL.  She is a spelling and grammer harda*& even on instant messenger.

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

I don’t know what the total budget is, but if it is significant (read: a lot) then I think #1 is appropriate.  If your FI’s parents are kicking in $5k, that’s no small sum.

Also I think the # of guests is completely irrelevant to this issue.  That is an issue of its own and you shouldn’t mix the two.

You should tell your FI that his parents only get (so many) and your parents only get (so many) and the two of you only get (so many).  That will help cut down the list considerably.  Or tell your FI to tell his parents they need to cut back or pay up.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@tksjewelry: Why would it be “honour” vs. “honor”? “Honour” is simply the British spelling.

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