Post # 1
Okay, so this is my FMIL’s suggestion but I wanted to run it by the bees and see what you think. We weren’t going to do an engagement party at all, as we don’t really want to spend a lot of money/don’t want our parents to either. I think our families want us to have something though because they haven’t yet met each other and it would be a good opportunity.
So FMIL said she went to an engagement party a little while back where the couple rented out the party room in their condo building and had tea, drinks, and appies potluck-style.
So I have two questions…is it okay to have the engagement party at our place/throw it ourselves? And – is it okay to have a potluck (ie. everyone brings an appie)? I don’t want to seem really “cheap” or anything! Let me know honestly!
Post # 3
I think it’s perfectly fine!
Post # 4
I don’t see why you shouldn’t throw the engagement party yourself, as an engagement party isn’t really a gift giving event as such. A potluck sounds great to me, but I really like potlucks! 🙂
Post # 5
Thanks ladies I’m glad to hear that! I liked the idea, but didn’t want to make a “faux-pas” since I don’t really know anything about engagement parties. Keep the opinions coming!
Post # 6
I dont see anything wrong with that.. I would come lol
Post # 7
have it at your house, i did! and it went great…. make it a potluck and it will be so much easier on everyone its really much easier make it simple dishes i love potlucks you get such a great variety and your celebrating your engagement
i wish i had of thought of potluck, the food was to much
Post # 8
I think its totally fine to host the party yourselves. But I would be hesitant to ask people to bring food. Don’t get me wrong, I love a good potluck but I feel like they are usually done for community events, not a personal celebration. I hope this doesn’t come off snotty, I don’t mean for it to be.
Post # 9
@kellybell: No it’s not snotty!
Post # 10
I think that both ideas are awesome! Overall, the party really needs to reflect your style. My FI and I are doing a dessert party (potluck style) in our own home. We want our wedding to be laid back and fun and we think that treating the e party like any casual celebration will introduce our wedding style to our friends and family! I’m sure whatever you decide will be really fun and personal and that is all that matters! Cheers!