Potluck Post Wedding Celebration

posted 2 years ago in Parties
  • poll: Should we have a potluck post wedding celebration?
    Yes, so that your friends and family in Alabama can feel included in you're wedding bliss : (9 votes)
    75 %
    No, it's tacky don't do it, etc... : (2 votes)
    17 %
    Maybe, but then again they may be too offended to go since they weren't invited to original wedding : (1 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
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    2791 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

    I think that would be perfectly fine.  You may want to stick to asking specific family members to bring a dish instead of having it advertised as pot-luck. I’m sure your close family and friends would be willing to help out.

    Post # 3
    Member
    42522 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    furturemrsventura:  I think your friends in AL will feel like second class friends.

    By all means have a post wedding celebration, but don’t ask your friends to bring the food.

    Have a celebration you can afford- something casual like a BBQ, or serve pasta.

    Post # 4
    Member
    1059 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    furturemrsventura:  I think a pot luck is fine. You can even ask them to bring food. But make it clear you don’t want gifts. It would be tacky to ask for gifts from people who weren’t invited to the wedding.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2400 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    furturemrsventura:  We did a potlock post wedding celebration and it was awesome! Were both from the south so our families love pouring their love into their food & sharing it with everyone. It was actually heavily suggested by my family from the get go. We did make it very clear to everyone coming that they didn’t have to bring anything unless they wanted (ie friends traveling an hour+ with kiddos, or relatives from out of town) and also that we expected no gifts from anyone. We did ours in a state park pavilion so there were BBQ’s already setup, and I spent probably a little over $250 on snacks, sides, and main dishes that I made myself so that no-one else would have to deal with the brunt of the meal….

    Post # 6
    mscoralMember
    380 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: Cottage on the Creek

    I’d say in this instance, you provide the meal (IE burgers & dogs if you want to grill out) and say bring a side? you want some sort of organization so you dont end up with ten of the same casserole and no meat. But I was raised in the south, pot lucks are the norm here. 

    Post # 7
    Member
    8047 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2015

    Unless it’s a fundraiser or community event, I think potlucks are rude. Its pretending to host while displacing the effort and expense on your guests where it should be 100% on you.

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