(Closed) Potty training?

posted 5 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I don’t think it’s ever too early to introduce the potty and help her get comfortable with it!  Even if she’s not fully potty trained for a while, that’s a great age to introduce the potty since toddlers usually respond well to praise and they like to immitate their parents. 

My best advice is to start out by making the potty a positive experience.  Many babies/toddlers go at pretty predictable times of the day (before or after naps, meals, bathtime, and outings), so you can start by putting her on the potty during those times of the day.  Keep it light, at first, and positive. If she goes, she gets lots of praise; if she doesn’t go, it’s no big deal, and you can try again later.  I always try to make sure we spend 5-10 minutes on the potty for each try.  I’ll sing songs, play finger games, or read stories to keep DS entertained, but if he cries or gets upset, I take him off right away.  Starting out, you want to make sure the whole process is very positive so she doesn’t make negative associations with the potty or potty training, since that will set the whole process back.  Once you’ve begun the process, she’ll show you signs when she’s ready to fully potty train by communicating in some way when she has to go and by showing a preference for going in the potty instead of her diaper. 

We started DD on the potty when she was 3 months old, and she was fully potty trained by 18 months, using this method.  We started DS on the the potty at 2 months old, and he usually goes 1-2 times a day right now, at 6.5 months old.  It’s been a really great experience for our whole family, and I have to admit, that I love getting rid of the diapers!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It’s really good if she’s showing interest, but don’t push it too much. Most kids start around 2-3 years old, but I’ve seen one kid really interested in going potty on the toilet around 18-20 months. I’d recommend getting some potty books to read to her regularly. Some good ones are: ‘Everybody Poops’ and ‘Once Upon a Potty.’ I worked at a childcare center with very young children and reading these books seemed to make them more curious about using the potty. Also, whenever they did, their teacher would do a song and dance. The kids loved it so much, they would insist that their parents do the song and dance when they went at home. I would keep talking about it to her and making going potty a fun and ‘big kid’ experience.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mrs. Spring That’s great! I’ve heard of people doing this before. 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Missus_LLC:  Some people want to do it all in a short amount of time, like a few days, but I think you have to wait until they’re a little older for that approach.  If you don’t mind doing it gradually, and building up as she gets more comfortabloe, I think you can start at any age!  Good luck!

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

In my opinion there are 2 ways to potty train.  Which one you use is up to you and your kid and how much time (and patience) you have.  This is a good time to determine your overall parenting philosophy for toddlerhood…. meaning how much do YOU want to be involved in HER milestones.

Technique #1

You can introduce them early and take a longer time to train.  You start basically with reading her cues, determining when they have to go potty and then getting them to the potty so they can “go” in the potty.  they aren’t really potty trained…. they are learning the behaviors and you are putting both of you on a schedule that facilitates success.  It’s pretty time consuming and you have to be structured and definitely determined with your involvement.  Typically, the kid can’t “hold it” for more than a couple minutes (or maybe 10) so accidents are going to happen.  You can do rewards and make it a fun experience so that it’s not something they rebel against.  Sometimes, because YOU are involved if they need something to control…. this is what it will be, so potty training early *can* open you up to regression or control issues.  Depends on the situation, the kid and the parents reactions.  Typically there is a small window right around 2, where a motivated kid with supportive parents who have this kind of structure and time can learn to go to the potty unassisted from them on.  And some countries practice “elimination communication” right from birth.  This is similar to what Mrs Spring (above) is talking about and lots of people have success with this method… if you have the time (ie – if you have a SAHP…. this doesn’t work as well with most daycares).

 

Technique #2.

Wait until they are old enough to be developmentally ready.  By that it means physically (they can “hold it” for 20-30 minutes, because they have enough advanced recognition that the need is not immediate by the time they know they have to go).  They wake up dry in the morning and during naps.  They can follow complex commands (for example… go get your brush and ponytail holder.  put them on the kitchen table).  They can undo their own pants and pull up/down their undies.  They can let you know they have to go to the bathroom well before it’s an emergency.

Typically, a child is ready at this level by age 2.5 or 3.  With this method the CHILD is in control of and “owns” this milestone.  similar to walking… ACTUAL potty training is a physical milestone.  Pretty much your kid will get to the same point at the same time, regardless of what you do before hand…. it’s just whether or not you want to spend all that time cheering them on before they are “actually” ready to do it on their own.  However, potty training is the first milestone that in addition to having a physical developmental process ALSO has a mental developmental process.  So, it will take less time and be less frustrating if you wait for the mental development to catch up to the physical development.  Which is why it’s later….. about 2 1/2. 

 

Either way is a valid way to potty train.  It’s just up to you.

 

Good Luck.

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i am a preschool teacher for the twos so this is my specialty. you can pm me for techniques. i have a fool proof method but the child has to be ready which can be at anytime but usually at around 2 years.

Post # 11
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i am a preschool teacher for the twos so this is my specialty. you can pm me for techniques. i have a fool proof method but the child has to be ready which can be at anytime but usually at around 2 years.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I worked in a day care in the 2 year old room.  I don’t think 15  months is too early to introduce her at all.  Make certain times of the day potty time.  Right before breakfast, before lunch, after nap, before dinner, and before bed.  You do this every day and she will be trained in no time.  You just gotta stick with it.  Just sit her on the potty and say we’re going tinkle or pee pee, if it happens that’s great and if she doesn’t believe me it’s totally worth it!  Good Luck!  Consitency is key!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Fwiw, we did EC pretty part-time (nights and weekends) with our daughter because both of us worked full-time and she was in daycare from 9 months on.  I’m able to do it more with our son, since I’m now a SAHM, but we’re not very strict about it.  Sometimes I get him on the potty 3 or more times a day, sometimes he doesn’t go on at all for a few days in a row.  I think any positive potty time is helpful, though.

If this sounds like a method that might work for your family, myself and some other bees have posted about our EC experiences in this thread:

http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/elimination-communication-aka-infant-potty-training 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@Mrs. Spring: I just started reading through that other thread that you posted. As a preschool teacher, it’s such a foreign concept to me, but I’m really curious to read more. I’m going to look it up and talk to my husband about it. Maybe we’ll try with our baby, instead of waiting until they’re a couple years old.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

@Peony007:  I first heard about EC on a message board, and ended up reading The Diaper Free Baby while pregnant, which helped me understand the whole concept a bit better.  If you’re interested in learning more about it but a bit skeptical, I’d recommend an American EC book like The Diaper Free Baby or Diaper Free Before Three.

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