Post # 1
So my son is 3 years old and so all day I’ve made it to wear he has his diaper off. He has a potty, knows where it is and uses it perfectly. He goes #1 and #2 perfectly fine in it and we haven’t had a problem…
The problem is however that when we leave the house and he has to get dressed or we have company over he wears a pull up under his clothes but does not use the potty. He doesn’t say anything at all and does his business quietly. Even if you ask him if he needs to go he will say no. So how can I get him to stop going in his pull up all together? Am I just trying to rush the process instead of letting him do it on it’s own.
I want to add too that when you sit him on the toilet randomly he won’t want to use it.
Post # 3
@JustLove25: Stop putting him in a pull up. I would put him in big boy underwear so he looses the sense of security
Post # 4
My son was the exact same way and I don’t think he stopped wearing a pull-up until he was 3 1/2. I guess he just really liked them:) I wouldn’t worry too much, maybe it’s a comfort thing and he’s just not quite there yet.
I will say that even though my son took longer to shed the pull-up, once he did there were no issues, no bed-wetting or accidents. He was just finally ready for the toilet. Let it be and encourage using the potty at home and no, he will NOT go to kindergarten in diapers:)
Post # 5
I’m not a parent but I’ve heard from multiple parents that they’ve found that their kids go in the diaper or pull up just because they can, why go to the potty if you’re wearing one? However, no one likes wet pants or underwear. I second mwitter. No more pull ups. If he wets himself, that sucks, but he’ll figure it out quick.
Post # 6
I AM a parent of two boys and I just want to add that boys take longer than girls to fully train and yes,he will decide when he’s fully ready and I predict, based on my experience, that it won’t be much longer.
Having wet pants and being humiliated is NOT going to speed the process. My last two cents:)
Post # 7
@mwitter80: We’ve tried this many times here at home but no luck.. It doesn’t stop him..Especially if he’s distracted.
Post # 8
@PutABirdOnIt: Thank you! It’s nice to hear advise from another mom with boys and honestlytI don’t think my son learns the harsh way. My MIL gave me a very hard time and said he should be trained by the age of 2. I ignored her and now he is doing really well so I guess it will let it take it’s course. Ive also heard boys take longer to train and I can definitely see that with my son.
Post # 9
@JustLove25: You will have to put him in underwear. DS is 3.5 and we are just now starting to make progress with potty training. Pull ups for him didn’t work because they are to much like a diaper. He has been in undies since Sunday and we have had accidents including 1 #2 accident (that was not fun cleaning up) but yesterday we only had 1 accident all day which is huge improvement. When he pees in his undies he feels it right away and gets upset because he doesn’t like to feel “yucky” this has helped so much. The pull up absorbs the pee and he didn’t feel it like he does in his undies. We still do a pull up at night but for naps I keep him in the underwear.
Post # 10
@JustLove25: I agree with the boy thing. My bonus son wasn’t potty trained until he was 3yrs and 2months. The going in his undies did help him though. He hated the feeling.
Post # 11
For us, the big incentive was big boy school. You can’t go to junior kindergarten if you don’t use the toilet. The teacher is not allowed to change your pull up and all the other kids will be wearing underwear. My stepson really looks up to my older nephew, so we used him as inspiration “A doesn’t wear pull ups and he’s in big boy school, don’t you want to go to school like him?” and when we were with my nephews, we’d bring them all into the bathroom together.
Stickers on a chart were a BIG deal (he got to pick the sticker) and he was all over that. He refused to poop on the toilet though, he did what your son did and just went in his pull up he’d wear to bed. It was so frustrating. We eventually bribed him with a little chocolate (those ones that look like pumpkins they put out at Halloween to make it fun, and we put them in a clear Tupperware just tantalizingly out of reach) as a reward and that’s what worked for us. You’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do!
Post # 12
Take him out of the pull ups. Yes, he will have some accidents and it will be a pain but he will potty train a lot faster without them.
Post # 13
I don’t know if you already do this, but when my daycare provider potty trains boys, she gives them little treats each time they go (an M&M, a mini marshmallow, a sticker, etc…). She said that girls usually don’t need incentives, but boys need a little more encouragement. 🙂
Also, I know that Mr. Bee has written alot lately about potty training Charlie on Hellobee. Might be some good tips about potty taining a boy (we’re not there yet with Henri, so I don’t have a lot of personal experience pottying boys, lol).
Post # 14
My son was the same way. We just took the pull ups away completely. Now he goes no problem with company over, or at friends places.
Post # 16
Hi @JustLove25: saw your topic, and thought back to when my kids were little and we were potty training (I am over 50 years old… youngest is closing in on 30 now)
Have to agree with the others… moving out of the Diapers / Pull-Ups is important, putting them into underwear, and they’ll feel the discomfort of dirty pants … they have the brain power to acknowledge this isn’t what they ultimately want, and WHY it happens, and HOW to make it stop.
Also, incentives do work. Especially so if you both agree (Parents & Child)… you can make a deal as to WHY, WHEN and HOW MANY…
In my Daughter’s case she was about 3 and had little to no interest in potty training, until we had a hot summer’s day, and all the adults were hanging out patio / poolside in our bathing suits (lol, she clearly informed me that Diapers are hot and uncomfortable)… she wanted to be in her bathing suit too. We explained, that she wasn’t because she was inconsistent in using the potty. She quickly negotiated a deal… no going back, she was literally potty trained in a day (mind you she was dry each and every night, if I managed to catch her early in the morning). In our case Smarties (like M&Ms) made the world of difference. We got her to go poo for the promise of rewards. There were a few accidents here and there, but nothing Mom couldn’t deal with from then on. She was glady accepted into Nursery School in the Fall, without further incident. And quite honestly, I think she did realize that being potty trained did open up other doors to her… such as our local pool wouldn’t give swimming lessons to kids who weren’t potty trained. She was very proud to BE A BIG GIRL, and get to do BIG GIRL STUFF !!
Getting kids out of diapers is a huge relief (not to mention a cost-savings). Good Luck.