Pr-Wedding Anxiety

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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692 posts
Busy bee

You’re experiencing a vague sense of anxiety because you’re focusing on your pre-wedding jitters too much and trying to find meaning in the feelings. Try this: Tell yourself, “I have pre-wedding jitters, so I’m nervous. Being nervous is ok.” Don’t try to reason with your anxious thoughts. Don’t give them more attention than they deserve.

If you need something a bit more to help, try worry periods. 

http://www.anxietycoach.com/worry-periods.html

 

Post # 3
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34 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I have a lot of anxiety about walking down the aisle.  I hate being the center of attention, and the thought of all eyes being on me makes me want to run in the other direction.  I know once I am at the front of the aisle standing with my FI I will be totally fine, though still a bit emotional.  Could the thought of being the center of attention be causing you anxiety?  I think that’s pretty normal.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

TiaMP:   I feel you!!! I am 14 days away and I am losing sleep ( i normall sleep like a ROCK!!). I think I am going to get some OTC sleep aids like zquil because I am exhausted 🙁

I am just trying to take deep breaths when I get stressed and focusing on all the parts that will be SO SO amazing that day like the dancing, taking pics with my besties, getting MARRIED!! 

I also don’t like to be the center of attention but we are doing a first look and taking pics before hand so I think that will help take the edge off. I am counting on it lol! Otherwise I start to get panicky thinking about all the people looking at me .

Post # 7
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6525 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

TiaMP:  its ok. you will live. LOL!

its totally normal. I was in denial for about a month, then the week of the wedding it was like the calm before the storm. Then the morning of I just made myself so sick bc of my nerves. <br />Its fine. I actually snapped out of it once I started walking down the aisle. 

I don’t think the nervouness has anything to do with doubting if you are marrying the right guy, i think its all the planning, and the wedding and then it hits you “omg I am getting married to the man of my dreams.for-ev-er” its a big deal, its a big step, and its totally normal to freak out. I think its more freaking out of excitement than anything. 

Don’t forget to breathe! Breathing helps lol

Post # 10
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511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I also had a ton of anxiety – especially about walking down the aisle – I hate when people stare at me it makes me really self conscious plus I was sure I was going to trip and fall on my face… We did a first look and pictures before hand to try to take the edge off but it didnt really work Hahaha I practically ran (or at least i just walked naturally with zero pausing) down the aisle (my mom tried to really drag it out, since she walked me down b/c my dad passed away, but I wasn’t having any of it) once I was up at the top of the aisle I was fine. Being introduced into the ballroom was awkward too but at least I was with my husband and he’s chill about that sort of thing… Anyway we had a fabulous wedding and I still have warm glow memories about it despite anxiety. You will be fine everything you’re feeling is really a natural and normal response to the build up of stress. Give yourself permission to be worried and don’t make it bigger than it is by questioning yourself about doing the right thing 🙂 its going to be perfect! Also I read studies that say the physical symptoms of anxiety are the same as excitement and its context that makes you decide you are feeling one way and not the other – so focus your mind on what you are excited about and that should steer you into a happier place pre wedding 🙂 good luck!

Post # 11
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274 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I feel your pain exactly!  My wedding is in 15 days and I have been feel anxious for the past week. For me it’s completely because of the planning process.  Especially when people say, “oh, you must be all set to go by now!” and I’m like, no! I’m still DIY’ing, I don’t have my music selections finalised, I have to write my toast, scheduling, etc etc!  Then I think, omg I am SO behind! I dig out my to-do list and stress over it for a few minutes.  I wish my FI was home to keep me sane (he’s out of province working offshore until next weekend, so I’ve had minimal contact with him).<br /><br />I am REALLY hoping to have all my stuff pretty much done by the end of this weekend..  But I’m sure even if I do manage that I will steel feel nervous.  Just take it day by day I guess.  We’ll get through it!!

Post # 12
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2516 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

TiaMP:  Ugh relying on other people to do stuff is the WORST! Hang in there!1 Maybe send her a text being like i need you to get your dress asap. I found that giving people a completion date sometimes helps

Just breathe, It will be ok! Thats what Im telling myself 🙂

Post # 13
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Newbee

Well, my wedding is next week and we only set the date 4 months ago (we like to fly by the seat of our pants) after a lengthy engagement . We haven’t finalized toasts, we haven’t written any speeches, our music list isn’t finalized and my fiance had to leave for the long weekend so that he could do some business thing. I am not proud to report that I childishly broke down earlier this morning… yeah, I might be a bit anxious. Our saving grace is that our wedding will only have around 40 guests. Regardless of size, getting married is a big deal! I think it is entirely normal and there should be some anxiety around it because it means that you can grasp that this is a very important day 🙂

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