Post # 1
So DH and I are a little on opposite pages when it comes to giving/receiving gifts. He doesn’t want to receive anything that isn’t practical because he generally doesn’t want for anything. And he also thinks of gifts that are always practical. I, on the other hand, like to get and give gifts that the other would enjoy and perhaps not by for him/herself.
Case in point: While I appreciate the occasional practial gift, I want a fancy pair of earrings for Christmas. I’m looking at ones that are about $100. Whereas, DH would rather get me the gift of having a remote car starter installed on my car since winters here are so bad and because it’ll raise the price we get for my car when we part with it someday. That would cost around $150 or so. But he hates spending money on jewelry and his eyes popped out of his head when I told him how much the earrings I like cost.
Are you and your SO opposite? Who is the practical one?
Post # 3
@howtobeawife: I don’t know that we are much either/or. We are the kind of people that give you what you ask for. It would be nice to have that in return, but his mom is more of a sentamental gift giver. She wants to give gifts that mean something to her, whether you can use them or not. Half the time they get given away or shoved in a box because they aren’t “practical.”
Earrings might not be considered practical because they can’t be used like a remote car starter, but you can wear them everyday, and it is something you want so if you can use them every day I say they are practical 🙂
Post # 4
We really listen to the person who we are buying the gift for or the parents, if the gift recepient is a child. For FI’s sister and BIL, we tend to get a bottle of a nice wiskey that we know they won’t buy for themselves, but really enjoy. For the toddler niece, since the parent’s requested, we got clothes and diapers. These aren’t the most interesting gifts, but they are useful and don’t add clutter to the parent’s house.
For the FI and I, we both have a strong pratical streak, but I wouldn’t mind if he would get me more impratical things. I remember about half of the gifts he has given me (we constantly forget what he got me Christmas 2011 and 2010, because it was so pratical, it doesn’t even cross our radar as a gift) At the same time, they were exactly what I asked for at the time.
I think across the board, listening to the person you are buying for is the most important part of gift giving.
Post # 5
I am usually the more practical gift giver of the two of us, but we both like to give a mix of practical and fun gifts. This year, I’m giving my FI new floor mats for his car (which he’s wanted for a while) for his practical gift, and then some new records and maybe a video game he’s wanted for something more fun. FI will give me a pretty similar mix of gifts. It works well for us.
Post # 6
We are both EXTREME practical givers and we both hate getting impractical gifts! DH even DESPISES getting wrapped gifts or cards, as he thinks they are a wasteful too, however, I’m not that extreme. Whenever we get impractical gifts, we usually just give them away because we can’t be bothered to let it take up space in our small apartment.
It doesn’t stop at hating cards or wrapping paper with how practical we are. When we get wish lists from family, we even evaluate how “practical” their wish list is and pick the one they are the MOST likely to use. Also, we tend to choose the ones that will help people get active or healthy, or out there experiencing life!
Yea I realize we’re imposing our practical beliefs on everyone, but we live a pretty minimalistic life (expect for outdoor gear is our achilles heel, people can ALWAYS buy us outdoor gear from REI or MEC regardless if we “need” it) and don’t see the sense in silly ornaments or stuff that’ll just collect dust. We still always try to keep the person that we are buying for in mind, but it’s just usually something they’ve said they needed or wanted, that also seems practical. We’re never going to buy something we deem practical that they don’t want because that’s pretty much a waste of money, and it shows that person we weren’t thinking of them.
Post # 7
@howtobeawife: We’re both practical, at least now that we’re married. I used to jump on any opportunity to get jewelry or clothes or perfume but now I prefer the money goes towards household items instead.
Post # 8
@howtobeawife: Oh yes. DH is the VERY practical one in our relationship … until he’s not, haha.
He’ll use Every. Last. Drop. of toothpaste from a tube that I have long since abandoned in favor of a new one. Last night, he brought home this mostly empty, gargantuan box (18.5″ x 26.5″!) with some donuts in it (they were left over from a work meeting), and, when I tried to put the small number of donuts into a couple of quart-sized, plastic bags so that I could rid my kitchen island of the cardboard monstrosity, he actually told me NOT to do it, because I was being “wasteful” with the plastic bags. He just wanted the donuts to remain in the box until they were gone. Really, DH? *Shakes head.*
And, yet, if/when we have the resources, and he deems something to be valuable in terms of nurturing his relationship with someone, he also enjoys being extravagant at times.
I definitely CAN be practical, and I’ve had to learn how to be, especially at this time in our lives, given our current financial situation. However, I must admit that when I was making a great living prior to having to quit my job to relocate to be with DH, my tendency was not to be practical in my gift giving or in my own purchases. 😀
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
My great-aunt once came for a visit and bought my mom a trash can. I can still remember how PISSED my mom was. lmao
Post # 10
@prahajess: Hahaha! That’s what one of my best friends (who is ALSO very practical) gave to me for my housewarming gift when I built my first house — two, giant, plastic trash cans. Also, for Christmas one year (long ago,) this friend gave me a tool kit. 🙂
Don’t get me wrong, I WAS/AM truly grateful, and they were NEEDED. They’re just not necessarily the type of thing that many of us think of first when we think of gifts. 🙂