Post # 1
I have a small condo, and I’m trying to fight clutter.
I just started my registry – probably going to do amazon and target or crate and barrel. I want to register for primarily useful, practical stuff. As much as I want to pretend I’ll be making my own pasta and throwing dinner parties monthly with perfect matching dishes, I’ve managed just fine with mismatched serving dishes and whatnot.
So I put together a modest registry of things we can stand to replace (chipped dishes) etc and things that we need (cast iron skillet, nice knives, proper casseroles, etc). The most expensive thing was $95
I showed it to my mom and FMIL and they both said I should add nicer, fancier things because people will want to get me those things. But…I don’t need/want fancier things. I could add a piece of le Creuset I suppose – I do cook a lot. But I really don’t need super high-end serving dishes and I don’t want them taking up valuable room.
Thoughts? Do I need fancier stuff?
Post # 3
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
could you use new cookware? A food processor? Stand mixer? Vacuum? Some guests will like to buy a higher ticket priced item, or friends may chip in (bridesmaids at one friends wedding bought her $400 cookware set, for example) lamps? linens?
Post # 4
Mine all practical. I’d like the pretty stuff but I need the practical stuff. I understand I picked out things I knew could fit in a apartment kitchen. My FI wanted a 4 sliced toaster so we can have toaat at the same time but I’d rather have 2 slice because it saves space. I don’t want clutter either!!!
Post # 5
Stick with practical as its a waste of money for others to buy you things that won’t fit in your home nor will you use
Post # 6
Throw in a set of candle sticks or a crystal bowl or one fancy thing for ‘that person’ if you have somewhere to put it. We had two places to combine and a small apartment, but it was really nice to have that one fancy crystal bowl for floating candles and my parents bought us crystal wine glasses (per my request), which we pulled out to drink my PhD-celebratory whiskey while decorating our first Christmas tree (and we also use them regularly with friends -they were from Craigslist, so if they break, eh). It was just nice to have nice things every once in a while. We also upgraded our plates to cheap white bone china from BB&B (durable, reaaally easy to clean, and can be decorated easily with accent plates for Christmas or holidays). That’s allowed me to do all kinds of cool placemats/tableclothes/candles. But it was surprising how nice it was to have new plates/silverware, just from a cleaning up point of view. We donated our old stuff for the most part, so college kids in the area will be happy about that.
We didn’t need anything like a vacuum or new pots and pans (in my opinion), so I did things like a set of Pyrex mixing bowls that stack, which are SO useful. I added a hand mixer because who has room for a stand mixer?? but I did want to make cake from a mix lol. Little gadgets like a Brown Sugar Bear give something for people to give with their card. Just keep the registry small and update it as you feel guilty (that’s what I did). We didn’t need many towels/sheets/etc, and no one got what we put on there anyway.
What people mostly gave us: Silverware/plates/bowls/crystal/cheap nonstick pot for my husband’s chili/glass food storage containers to replace our plastic ones/collander/pyrex bowls/cake stand (I use as a bread box). We got a few off registry things, like a set of ceramicware from Rachel Ray that we couldn’t return (dutch oven, pie pan, interesting set . .). But for the most part, people followed our lead.
I did add things like Netflix via Amazon’s add-in and someone got that for us, so that was cool. Using something like Amazon lets you add consumables like candles or subscriptions to things (or donations, for that matter).
I don’t recommend Target. I do recommend Amazon for the universal registry button if nothing else. We did BB&B (most of the stuff because the store is nearby), Amazon, and Macy’s (just for the towels, which no got us anyway).
Hope that helps.
Post # 7
Oh, and knives are the best!!! They are getting so much more expensive these days and are a great investment. Only our steak knives were bought because there’s some superstition about buying people knives, but we definitely bought a bunch with our registry completion discount and used J.A. Henckels and got a free knife by the end (and used it to help buy Christmas gifts).
One thing to know – you can add things to the registry AFTER the wedding. Then buy them with the discount and get the completion perks. Even if you don’t need stuff, it’s a great way to save money on Christmas/Birthday gifts for other people as well (totally got my mom a knife for Christmas (she wanted it) in such a way that I got a free utility knife – score!). So pick somewhere that’s easy for you to shop, so if you get $200 in gift cards, you can just use them for other people if needed.
Post # 8
@Moraz: we are not registering for a couple of reasons. The main one being, I literally have pretty much everything I want. If I want new dishes, I just go on pier1 and order them. I really have no needs and no patience…lol…if I want something I just buy it. I also have another disorder, where I really like the better quality items. Well most people, his family and our circle of friends are financially comfortable, but for those that aren’t, or who are going through issues right now, I would hate for them to take one look at my registry and not be able to afford anything. For example, if I want the $700 knife block set; I can’t register for that as if I expect anyone to buy me something that expensive, and why on earth would I register for the $100 block set That I do not want. Does that make sence
Post # 9
I would take this opportunity to register for really nice bedding (helloooo 1000ct sheets!) blankets, plush towels, nice cookware, plates/cups, and silverware. Your mom is right, people DO like to get fancy things for the couple (esp the older generation). We got all of our high ticket items and really enjoy them!
Post # 10
I thought of more things to say (sorry . . you got me thinking about my registry again).
Like Diamondgurl said, nice sheets/etc are nice (I felt very materialistic and guilty about it, so I didn’t end up doing) but frankly, no one got us anything like that anyway, and neither did any of our friends get stuff like. Fancy sheets were a common “we have everything we need” registry item, but I can only hope it works for other social circles because it didn’t work for any of us lol.
The reason I suggest putting one fancy thing is to direct the person who is going to get you a fancy thing either way – at least then they’ll get it off your registry and you can return it! We had people go off registry because there wasn’t anything there that they wanted to buy (usually the older generation – my husband’s coworkers), and they aren’t exactly people who would come to our house, so it wouldn’t have mattered if I’d returned everything. Just make sure your husband knows you don’t actually want it so he doesn’t buy it for you for Christmas.
Other things we ended up buying when we moved in together that I didn’t expect and don’t take up extra room – big food storage containers for flour/sugar etc. My husband moved in and brought his flour bug flying things with him! It was horrible. We’ve had to double bag/put in plastic almost everything! They even live in nuts! I never thought I’d be a cereal-in-plastic person, but the bugs won. So hopefully you won’t have that problem, but it’s a great time to get that kind of stuff because you never know what’s moving in with you! And people did actually buy that kind of stuff off our registry (kitchen towels were another off-registry thing that was surprising).
Another reason to add Amazon as a registry – then you get Amazon gift cards, which can be used for toilet paper, coffee, etc later.
There are ways to do a registry and not want to throw away everything in your apartment at the end of the day :). Good luck!
Post # 11
@Moraz: I’m with you. My registry items were all practical. We’re not “stuff” people and don’t exactly buy into our materialistic society. Someone bought me a set of crystal and I opened it thinking, “What the f*** am I ever going to do with this?” I don’t like that stuff. If I can’t use it, eat it, or wear it, I don’t want it. (No lie, I have a $50 gift card to Bed Bath and Beyond from months ago, and I can’t find a single thing I need there. I’m debating buying things for a local shelter and donating all of it.)
Having said that. I also live in a tiny rental house. Think outside the box. Do you need furniture? (Coffee table? Bed stand? Lamp?) Storage bins? A bench with storage baskets inside? What about a grill for summer cooking? Would you like a hammock to relax outside? Patio furniture for a porch if you have one?
“Fancier” items don’t have to mean upscale versions of something you already have/don’t need, they can be practical big-ticket items!
Post # 12
I decided that there are things I can legitimately upgrade – for the knives I broke out the set by knife so the range is $80-150 per knife. A new set of nice towels. A vitamix. Serving dishes that actually match. It’s not a huge wedding (maybe 60 or so people) and I have about 80 items from $5 to the $450 Vitamix, with the vast majority in the $30-80 range. Hopefully that works.
@OnceUponATime: I’m not a stuff person either. It feels so wasteful to replace everything, because I try to buy high quality stuff in the first place and take good care of it. But I suppose my dishes are getting chipped and some good stemware would be nice. I just have such a tiny place – some of the sets may be in storage until we get a bigger place!
Post # 13
Practical, more expensive items we put on were: vaccum, compact air purifier (I’m allergic to our dogs), nice picture frames or things for the walls, compact surround sound for the living room, new cookware (you can always donate old stuff so you’re not using more space), and nice bedding is more expensive and always useful
I had a hard time registering for expensive gifts, but everyone demanded that we did so i gave in
Post # 14
We are the same way. We registered for a matching set of plates (not china) because our plates (and everything else, really) are our combined dishes that survived each of our roommates. We did register for a couple of more expensive items, a $149 dollar set of rachel ray pots and pans, a $100 down comforter, and the most ridiculous, a $250 steam cleaner. Other than that we just have towels, glasses, the usual. Nice matchy versions of what we’ve already been using for a few years. Truthfully I don’t really want any gifts but if we must recieve gifts, cash would be best because we are trying to pay off my truck early. Ah well! PM if you’d like to see our Target registry.
Post # 15
@Moraz: We also live in a small place that is desperately lacking storage. I registered for some some All Clad pieces to replace the aged & lower quality pieces we already have. Also registered for new cooking/serving utensils, nice knife set and a smaller cast iron skillet (I’m getting tired of lifting my big one for small tasks!). Nearly all of our registry items are upgrades & will replace what we have now so we won’t have to figure out how to make room for MORE stuff. So our registry is practical but I chose higher end brands. I tried to include enough small ticket items for folks that didn’t have anyone to chip in with. Things like rubber grips, silicone pan scrapers, glass salt & pepper cellars, etc.
Way after i registered we decided to buy a house and we’re in process now with a closjng date of Feb 21. If all goes smooth I am going to add a good amount of serving pieces to the registry. That’s something we’ve never been able to have for lack if space.
Post # 16
everything on my registry, aside from my glass trifle bowl and the cake stand with a glass dome, is practical. we don’t have many kitchen items (most of what we had in our last apartment was completely trashed because it had been super cheap and was used by a whole ton of roommates over the course of 4 years) due to the fact that we live with my parents at the moment. so most of what is on our registry is cookware and dishes and all of that. along with kitchen essentials, plus bedding and towels. nothing truly frivolous.