Post # 1
So today has been a rough day for my family. My cousin, who I am very close with, was 8 months pregnant with her first baby, a little girl to be named Annabelle. She was 32 weeks as of yesterday.
The baby was diagnosed with a severe hernia that was so bad it was pushing up against her lung cavity which was making it impossible for her lungs to develop properly. So the doctors warned my cousin that after she was born she would need immediate surgery but that she would likely always suffer from respiratory problems (no telling how severe) for her entire life due to having under developed lungs. My cousin and her husband decided to keep going with the pregnancy and wanted to give their baby at least a chance at life.
Making it to 32 weeks was in and of itself a miracle given all of the complications my cousin was facing. She had gastric bypass surgery about 6 years ago and her body didn’t handle it well. She lost most of the weight but also gained a whole slew of health problems. Including not being able to absorb vital nutrients from regular food. So she has a cocktail of pills she takes daily and that maintains her health for her. But for a pregnancy it was proving to be a challenge. she had no problems getting pregnant but could not keep it for more than 7-9 weeks. She had 3 miscarriages before this last pregnancy that made it to 32 weeks.
Yesterday she started having contractions. the doctor did all they could to stop labor. then her water broke and she developed a fever which was a sign of infection. She was forced to deliver the baby early and hope for the best. The doctors were honest and told her that even at full term, doing the necessary surgery on the baby was incredibly risky, but on a baby that was not full term, the odds of survival were low. they promised to do everything in their power to get the baby out of surgery and into the nicu.
the baby was born and weighed 4 lbs 3 oz. which was bigger than what they expected. Sadly she didn’t survive and didn’t even make it into surgery.
To say they are devastated is an understatement. My family has already watched them hurt so much with 3 miscarriages and to have their latest pregnancy end this way is just heartbreaking. to see someone who is a genuinely good person struggle for something that she has wanted her whole life is difficult and I feel so helpless. I can’t fix this for her and I can’t really do much to take away the hurt they are feeling. But I can ask for prayers. I’m not quite sure what else to do except to ask for as many prayers as I can get for them. Prayers for strength and some kind of peace and of course for baby annabelle. I figured coming to the hive for extra prayers can’t hurt right?
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Post # 2
Oh my goodness. I am so so sorry for your cousin and your family. I have said a prayer for her and Annabelle. I can’t even imagine what they are going through.
Post # 3
Such a heartbreaking thing for your family. Sending prayers!
Post # 4
stardustintheeyes: I will pray for them for sure! I am so sorry for your family’s loss.
Post # 5
Sometimes I just want to shake my fist at the universe!! Damn you, Damn YOU!!
Sending prayers to your family
Post # 6
I’m sorry your cousin is going through this. I’ll be praying for her and her family.
Post # 7
I am so sorry. Your family will be in my prayers.
Post # 8
I am so, so sorry. I cannot imagine how they must be feeling right now, I will most definitely be praying for strength and peace.
Post # 9
stardustintheeyes: You’re a good cousin, the love you have for her is palpable! Prayers have and are being said for her and your whole family. I can’t imagine the anguish they are going through. I’ll pray for your strength as well to be a rock upon which they can lean.
Post # 10
i’m so sorry. i’m keeping your family in my prayers.
KoiKove: right?! it seems like the people who want and deserve a baby the most have the worst luck 🙁
Post # 10
MrsCallalily: eeniebeans: howtobeawife: KoiKove: Rhopalocera: thank you! there aren’t really words to say to them that will help. My family and I have all been pitching in with their children. My cousin doesn’t have any kids but her husband had 3 girls from a previous relationship that he has custody of. So we have all been making sur ethe girls are taken care of. I will be going tomorrow morning to clean her house and she has requested we clear the baby stuff from out in the open and move it into their storage room. I don’t think she’s prepared to go home to that. two of their girls will be coming with me to my son’s football game tonight so they are occupied and will be staying with me for the night. I realize none of this stuff changes what happened. But since I can’t really do much else I’m doing everything I am capable of doing.
Post # 12
stardustintheeyes: I’m so sorry for your cousin’s loss. For all of you. Sending prayers.
Post # 13
I am sorry she is having to go through this, and hoping that she finds the strength to get through this hard time.
Post # 14
thank you again for the prayers!
Post # 15
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That is absolutely heartbreaking, your family, especially your cousin and her husband and their little girl, will be in my prayers <3