Post # 1
So this weekend my FI and I are going to do pPre-Cana but we are going to Engagement Encounter which is a weekend away i nstead of 1 night going home and a then full day, we are going friday night and not leaving until sunday afernoon. I am really nervous and exicted at the same time…
Have any of you gone through pre-cana or engegement encounter? What happens there?
Post # 3
I’m going at the end of February so I’m interested to see the answers too. 🙂
But whenever someone else has posted this sort of question, the answer always seems to be “I was so nervous but everything turned out totally fine!”
Post # 4
@FutureDeLACruz1101: We went to ours in Sept. It was a two day class at a local parish. They have speakers who share their experiences, thoughts and religious views on marriage, children, etc. You also talk to other couples and answer questions in a book and share them with your FI to see if your answers line up or what areas you should discuss further before marriage. It was fine. Long but fine. FI and I have been together for over six years, so there wasn’t much to learn 🙂
Post # 5
We did a weedend retreat for Pre-Cana classes. There were about 30 couples there and it basically consisted of a lot of mini-talks about different aspects of marriage: the religious/spiritual side, communication, finances, meeting each other’s needs, stuff like that. Each talk was about an hour-hour and a half long and afterwards we had 30 minutes to go off with your SO and discuss the lecture. We also had a workbook with sample questions to ask each other. The retreat was led by a priest, but a handful of other couples came in to give some of the lectures.
Overall, most of the talks were very good and very helpful. And even though my H and I had already gone over the majority of the topics, it gave us a common language for communicating that will be helpful going forward. But as with all things religious, there were a few lectures that were just too preachy for me and I didn’t agree with what was being said at all (the talk on birth control is an example).
Post # 6
We did ours last year. It was just ok. I’d say there were about 30 couples, and lots lots lots of little lectures/sessions. Some of the stories shared were interesting, some were a little too preachy for my tastes. FI and I didn’t really learn anything new about our relationship because we have a very strong ability to communicate, and we had touched on everything. We did, however, come out feeling really great about ourselves because of that.
Loads of couples seemed to get a lot out of the experience though, so we are probably in the minority. Some girls were crying at certain points. I will also say it was lovely to just get away from it all with FI. Even though we felt like we were in school, when we took walks and had alone time to talk, it was really refreshing. It does allow a good opportunity to take time alone as a couple.
Post # 7
We were going to do Engaged Encounter but the only weekend it was available near us we can’t do so we are doing a different program instead – an intensive 1 day program at our church. It’s not until April though so I have no idea what to expect!