Post # 1
So if this has been posted before I didnt see it and I apologize but I need your help! the Church requires us to complete either Pre-Cana or Engaged Encounter. My mother having helped with Engaged Encounter for years feels we should complete this but I;m not sure which is best for us. I am Catholic and he is Baptist. What have been your experiances and which do you suggest?
Post # 3
I was only offered pre cana which was basically just meeting with the deacon, his wife and a group of other engaged couples to tak about issues, once a week for 8 weeks.
I think engaged encountered is more of a fast track retreat thing….I think I woulda rather gone w/ the fast track. I mean, precana was helpful, but 8 weeks is long.
Post # 4
My fiance is baptist and we went on EE and loved it. It was so much better than we had expected.
Post # 5
I hear that EE is really the best, do that if you have the chance.
EE is so expensive here so we went with pre-cana.
Post # 6
Fiance and I went on an EE and we really enjoyed it…it wasn’t so much about being catholic as it was about how to have a really great marriage and how to communicate. we had a married couple leading ours and they would talk for a bit, give a few examples, let us write our thoughts down individually, and then just talk about it with our partners. there were several couples that had already been married once or one person was not catholic and it was a non-issue
Post # 7
It sounds like EE is really the way to go then. I dont know that with both of our conflicting schedules that we could de Pre- Cana so I suppose that helps with the decision too. Thanks 🙂
Post # 8
We are doing Pre-Cana but ours is just 2 times 4 hours each time. So I don’t know if different areas have different set ups.
Post # 9
So we met with the priest today (yay!) he mention both but thought that Engaged Encounter went more in depth. I came to the realization that when I was little i would never fantasize to much about what my wedding would be like past the oh so original white dress and dad giving me away though I looked forward to the day I got to go to EE. I think perhaps a little of my mother rubbed of on me lol but after looking both over Fiance and I both want to do EE… 🙂
Post # 10
We did Pre Cana — two weekends, on Sundays, for about 5 hours each day. There were about 25 couples in our class, and we LOVED it. We got so much out of our experience that we volunteered to be one f the married couples on the panel next year 🙂 I say look at them both and choose the one that you think is the best for you and your Fiance. I personally have never heard of EE.
Post # 11
We did pre- cana and LOVED it. At our church it was a one day seminar (we did it due to timing) but I have heard excellent things from others about EE.
Post # 12
@Garnety: same with us. my cousin highly recommended the engaged encounter, so we were hoping to be able to do it, but we couldn’t afford it.
our other options were “evenings of the engaged,” which are weekly classes held over 5-6 weeks, or “a day with the lord,” which is a one day class, and that’s what we chose to do since my fiance can’t take time off work every week for the series of classes.
Post # 13
We did pre cana and met with our mentoring couple four times for two hours. While they were wonderful, I think we would have actually gotten more out of EE. We chose pre cana because, as others have mentioned, EE was a lot more expensive.
Post # 14
We completed our pre-cana 2 weeks ago and it was a one day thing from 9am-3pm. There were tons of other couples there and we loved it! Got us talking more specifically about important issues such as finances, family planning, sex, and marriage roles. We weren’t offered the engaged encounter option.
Post # 15
We were required to do Engaged Encounter. I wasn’t sure about it at first but afterwards I’m really glad we did it.
Post # 16
We weren’t offered a choice, but if we were, I’d probably would have chosen the EE. Our pre cana was a big waste of time. I know a lot of bees had a great experience with theirs, and I wish we did, too, but all they talked about was how miserable marriage is going to make us, and how our task is to “find joy in the suffering”.